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writes:How do you define virginity? How do you lose it? I know the most known reason when there is penetration by the male organ? How about plain masturbation? Can you still be considered a virgin if a man touched your p***y or did cunnilingus but no penetration occurred?Just wondering.. Thanks... Reply to this Question
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reader, Forbiddenlovebutnoregrets +, writes (9 March 2011):
Forbiddenlovebutnoregrets is verified as being by the original poster of the question Wow... thanks guys!! You've got great answers... I really do appreciate it.. at least I have an idea now.. weeee....
@tennistar: Im only 22..turning 23.. hehehe.. sorry.. I was just curious.. I had a BF when i was already 21.. so i was just wondering... but we did not have any intercourse.. just oral sex...
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (8 March 2011):
Technically you loose it when you hymen is broken. It's even possible for a hymen not to break during intercourse.
What really counts for someone who wants a virgin partner is what LustyLisa said. Any kind of sexual act, being this touching, oral or intercourse is enough to consider yourself not virgin.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2011): For a girl, you are a virgin until the hymen is ruptured during the first act of sexual intercourse. That all sounds terrifically clinical and stern, doesn't it?
I know there are many people today who impose rules on themselves, for example, no sexual contact of any kind. It is absolutely the right of the individual to decide what is right for him/her. However, the losing of one's virginity is vastly more complicated than just the act of sex.
A vast array of emotions also launches itself when we embark on our first sexual relationship.
We're all, when young, in such a rush to get rid of the "encumbrance" of virginity. But really, there is no rush. You will know when the time is right and, I hope, you will be emotionally ready too.
You give your body to someone as a gift, they may not ask for it, no-one has that right.
And the last words (back to the clinical and stern!)"Use protection".
I wish you a happy, healthy and peaceful life.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (8 March 2011):
 You're 22-25 and asking this question? At that age, you should already know the answer. What's your real age?
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reader, LustyLisa +, writes (8 March 2011):
My definition of virginity is quite strict being that if you have ANY sexual contact with another person, it is sex regardless of whether penetration occures or not. If you perform/recieve oral sex from another person you are not a virgin in my book. If you have anal sex, male of female, you are not a virgin in my book. The orifice involved is irrelivent to me. ANY sexual contact with another person constitutes sex.
Masterbation on the other hand is a private, solo activity that doesn't involve another person. Even if a female uses toys and phallic shapped objects, it's not another person involved.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (8 March 2011):
 Strictly speaking you are a virgin until a penis has penetrated your vagina, no matter how little or for how long. Any penis will do no matter the size.
Virginity in this sense is determined by sexual contact between man and woman, and through the sexual act of intercourse alone.
However as you can imagine there's plenty of problems with this definition. It's the main one to stick to, but if you're wondering about what to tell a boyfriend (or girlfriend) or future husband, then talking with him about how he defines virginity will matter the most. That is in the case where virginity matters. If the person you want to be in a relationship is very strict about the sexual experiences of his potential mate then he might not have wanted you to even kiss a person before him.
So, talk about it. Everyone will have different ideas of what's "ok" and what makes you still a virgin or not. Anyone who's not had penetrative sex is a virgin in my book. That means virginity can be taken with a dildo while masturbating for example in a lesbian relationship, with fingers even, and for men to penetrate the anus if in a homosexual relationship.
Virgin to me is not synonymous with sexually inexperienced.
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