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Can someone my age fall in love with a guy?

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Question - (7 July 2018) 3 Answers - (Newest, 10 July 2018)
A male United States age , *ommer1 writes:

I had prostate cancer and had my prostate removed making sex imposable now that I am single I am interested in men and women turn me off I am 68 can someone my age fall in love with a guy

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (10 July 2018):

aunt honesty agony auntAge doesn't matter when it comes to love and wanting to be loved. However why do you feel you are attracted to men now? Is it a case that it was a side of you that you never explored or is it you are worried you cannot 'perform' for a female partner? If you do have an attraction towards men then no you are not to old to search for love, but make sure you are doing it for the right reasons. Have you had counselling since your operation?

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious United Kingdom + , writes (9 July 2018):

Youcannotbeserious agony auntI've read and re-read your question, and still I am not sure I understand what it is you are asking. As you saying that, before your operation, you were turned on by women, but having your prostate removed has turned you gay?

Or is it that you were always gay but in denial and now, because you had a wake-up call that you are not going to live forever, you have "come out"?

Or that you were always bi-curious and now wish to explore this curiosity?

Or that you feel women will no longer be interested in you because you cannot "perform" so you are settling for a man?

As you mention sex, are you looking for a sexual relationship?

Sorry, your post is so vague that it is difficult to make out what you are asking.

To answer the last part of your post, which I actually understand, I would say it is possible for ANYONE to fall in love with ANYONE, regardless of age or sex. Many older people (some way older than you) find love late on in life. Priorities change. Personality and character become a lot more important than physical attraction (for most). The love, however, can still be as deep, and possibly deeper, than in younger years.

If you intend to visit the gay dating scene, do take note of what WiseOwlE has said and stay safe.

I wish you luck in your quest, whatever it is. It is NEVER too late to fall in love.

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A male reader, WiseOwlE United States + , writes (9 July 2018):

Sir, I'm not sure your question makes sense. Age has nothing to do with the capacity to fall in-love! Nor does sexual-orientation!

You've decided you want to come out at 68 years old. You mention sex is impossible for you due to removal of your prostate. I would say, sex might not be a major component of a considerably mature gay-relationship; but most men slow-down sexually around that age anyway. They still love and want to be loved; but it takes time to find the right match.

That's true regardless of age!

Many lonely older gay-men are looking for companionship; but you have to get past a lot of stereotypical gay-nonsense. Some things in gay-culture make no sense; so you have to have nerves of steel, and the patience of Job (a Biblical-reference). It's common for guys on dating-sites to specify in their profiles they don't date certain races, only masculine gay-men, they set age-limits; and even indicate their preferred position of top or bottom. I'm not kidding you!

You're mature and experienced enough to know that finding a match takes time; and chemistry leading to a love-connection can be quite evasive. You can't walk right-out and find it.

If you're impatient, you'll make very foolish choices.

Gay-men are fickle and picky. We are quite often age-conscious; if not downright ageist. Many older-men (60 and over) prefer a younger-man. Even when they themselves are up-there in age, wrinkled, and a bit over-the-hill. So it certainly depends on what your expectations are, and what you're looking for in a man. Thus you'll find dating sites for Sugar-Daddies, or older-men looking for twinks; and twinks looking for gray-daddies. One too many are out there looking for financial-security and to hustle money from silly old-men. So if you're desperate; consider yourself a prime-target.

It can be awful, intriguing, or funny; depending on your point-of-view. Rarely do you find those searching for age-appropriate matches; and most set high-standards. So prepare for the challenge. Be very careful to avoid scammers and hustlers. The elder-gay has to be careful in the dating-world. Your loneliness can sometimes overrule your commonsense. You might take unnecessary risks. I hope you're not the naive-type.

You'll have to date a few men; and go through the date and selection-process, like anybody else trying to make a love-connection.

You can seek gay-male companionship through reputable gay dating sites; or free-lance, and see what you can find the old-fashioned way. There are a limited number of clubs and organizations online that cater to the mature gay-male. It's the 21st-century; so be open-minded, my friend. Don't be shocked or surprised at what you'll discover. Don't compromise your values, or be foolish. There is nothing sadder than a stupid old-man (old-queen) who tries to buy love!

Surely it is possible for someone your age to fall in-love. It will be a challenge finding someone searching for dates so late in life. Like I said previously; there are special dating-sites for mature gay-men. I have to warn you in-advance about the gay-culture. Many older-men are searching for younger partners; and want sexual-activity. So you will have to be quite selective and detailed about what you're looking for in your online dating-profile.

Good luck, dear sir!

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