A
female
age
,
anonymous
writes:Can someone out there please tell me - what is a "Player"? I hear of this reference alot and just wondering what are the character traits of a player, how does he relate to women.What does he REALLY think of women? Can players ever be trusted?
View related questions:
player Reply to this Question |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Ask oldersister +, writes (28 June 2008):
 I don't think "once a cheater always a cheater" always applies either, if it's with a different woman. If someone cheats on you, I think it would be the rare exception if they didn't do it again. I've seen guys change not in an existing relationship but for a new one. My mom always used to tell me when it came to men, all you have to do is fuck 'em right to keep them. That's partly true, I have to admit, but it's not going to prevent someone prone to cheating from straying.
Players are kind of a different breed and it incorporates their whole outlook on life- they believe in the law of numbers, quantity over quality. Fast seductions, low grade attachments, plenty of romance, and they are always on the move. Some common traits I've noticed in a lot of them is obsessed and guarded with their cellphones, always out and about either running errands (supposedly) or have many last minute things demanding their time, know a lot of people on a superficial basis, use endearing terms like "doll" or "sweetie" early on and very comfortable tossing those around, they seem to be overly "familiar" with you before they know you, build quick intimacy, charming, tell you that you are the only person that really knows them or understands them, can't account for what they did wrong in past relationships, a lot of female aquaintances, if you get angry at something they do they treat you like a little girl "oh, baby, it's okay, you know I would never do that if I thought it would hurt you"...
If something seems to good to be true at first, it probably is.
A
female
reader, DiovanLestat  +, writes (28 June 2008):
 "Ninety percent of men are cheaters"... Ms anonymous
Wow that's high, I suppose you also expect that 90% of women are cheaters too. Unfortunately you have been keeping company with some strange men, or maybe their is something in your attitude that forces men to cheat on you.
Players are men that go out with as many women as possible. They are playboys and girls are their toys. Some of them love women and will never be faithfull because they can't choose, some of them hate women and are trying to punish them. Players can change, just like everybody else. Personalities are not set in stone, and past activities are only guidelines (not guarantees) of how somebody will behave in the future. It's always dangerous to date these type of men, cause you can never be sure that your the woman he wants to be faithfull to, or just another one of his women with who he plays games.
...............................
A
female
reader, BigSis + ♥, writes (28 June 2008):
 Sorry I don't agree with the previous post, saying 'Once a cheater, always a cheater'
That's not always the case. It's not fair to tar every guy with the same brush.
I've known many guys who have been cheaters, players, Gigolo's, call them what you like. They can change, some of those I know HAVE changed, and are happy and secure in their 'now' relationships.
When that 'player' eventually finds a woman, then falls in love with her, and I mean REALLY falls in love with her, then that 'player' part of him stops cheating, and plays honestly ... with his lover.
Women can be the same too. We're not all angels you know ... well, I am.
: )
nb...
Keep your man satisfied in the bedroom, {as well as the kitchen, or any room for that matter} be always happy, laugh, joke, have fun, act like kids, if you have to, no mood swings, don't nag, do everything together, but allow each other space to be with friends, and most of all, trust one another, try not to be too jealous, if you can build up that trust ~ there wont be any jealousy, because that is one of the main factors in relationship break-ups.
Attempt to keep to these footnotes, as they will more often than not keep your partner from straying.
Happy relationships, one and all!
BigSis
xXx
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2008):
In response to your question "can players ever be trusted" simple answer NO. There are two kinds of men in this world as I have learned the hard way, the cheater and the good guy. Ninety percent of men are cheaters. Once a cheater...always a cheater.
...............................
A
female
reader, rhythmandblues2 + ♥, writes (28 June 2008):
 Urban dictionary says a Player is a man who juggles many different women and the women all know about each other, and generally he keeps the women focused on each other and vying for his attention as if he is some sort of prize.
A guy like this is an emotional cripple, so it isn't even a matter of trusting them, it is a matter of inability to trust and to love on their part.
...............................
A
female
reader, birdynumnums  + ♥, writes (28 June 2008):
 The definition of a "Player" is that he is at the top of his "Game", for the most part that means playing women (juggling and scoring with them). If someone treats a woman as a game, as something that they keep score of, do YOU think that that any Player is a guy that you should trust?
...............................
A
female
reader, softballplaya + ♥, writes (28 June 2008):
 hey girl!
I saw this question and I was lookin for the same answer. The term "player" is exactly what it sounds like. A person who uses girls to advance to the next one and so on. Dating is like a game to them. Its all about advancing to the next girl. I dated a guy like that and I always end up goin with him again for some stupid reason and he breaks my heart every time. A player cannot be trusted (but this is from my personal expirence, you never know until a player actually proves himself of being able to be trusted) The traits in a player are: Flirty ( he will be chatting it up with another girl while with you); Distant once in a relationship (they dont get attached so they can move right along to the next girl without feeling sympathy for the previous one); those are two common traits in a player. If your interested in a guy that you feel may be a player, then watch for these two things. If he does them then its a red light on him. If he has an ex that you know, then ask her about him. It usually is an almost sure fire way. Trust me, you learn alot from people. Anyways, like I said girl I had an experience with a player so if you wanna know more then private mail me. Ill be happy to help
take care && good luck
hope I helped=]]
...............................
|
