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female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:Hello,I have been dating a guy off and on for about 3 years. Hes my absolute best friend and the love of my life. But, I have major trust issues with him when it comes to cheating and such. We've dated 3 times (this time being our third) and the first 2 times he cheated on me. He left out of state over a year ago and we stopped talking. About 2 months ago we started taking again and we started dating again. He came back and he seems like a completely different person. But I cant shake the fear that he will cheat on me again. He seems like hes grown up and he regrets what he did. He promised he would never do it again. And I want to believe him but I just cant. I want to trust him again, but I dont even know where to begin. Help?
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (9 April 2011):
No, you can't. Every persons deserves a second chance, you gave him this chance already and he f*cked it up. So leave him, you are wasting your time.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (9 April 2011):
 Once a cheater always a cheater probably isn't true. But twice a cheater always cheater definitely is. This guy thinks he can get away with anything he wants and you will always take him back. Don't do it, it can't end well.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (9 April 2011):
 Once a cheat, always a cheat. It doesn't mean he will cheat again, but the propensity to do so is embedded in his personality. By taking him back time and time again he now thinks he can get away with it - almost rationalising cheating as acceptable. Even if he never cheats again, you don't trust him. If you don't trust him then there can be no basis for a long term, happy relationship.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (9 April 2011):
I wouldn't trust him at all. He's done it twice already. He'll do it again. I don't think he has the mental maturity yet to be in a relationship.
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