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writes:Can I trust him is it me he wants and not her?Hi im engaged to a man i met 7 months ago we had a whirlwind romance and fell in love so quickly he is everything i wanted , we both were out of long term relationships only 3 months and after being together for 2 months he proposed first engagement for both of us and we have both been in many long term relationships , all was wonderfull until about 2 months ago i found text messages on his phone by accident from her sayin she wanted him back and him textin her he always wanted hoped they would end up together but he is happy now ! and her saying lets meet and prove to each other we want to be together , wen confronted he said he did it coz he felt sorry for her she was leaving messages on his phone crying saying she couldnt cope ,this totally broke my heart and my trust for him he cryed and begged for forgivness and told her straight he didnt mean it while i listened she even texted me to say same , all was quiet on the text front i checked his phone and nothing till last week wen she started texting to say she is in hospital he texted back which he swore he wouldnt again to say are you alright im worried now , and good night sweetheart always thinkin of you xx im so hard broking now and feel i cant trust him he has swore it really wont happen he is just a caring person , in fairness he is and hasnt been away from me since we met and she lives a plane journey away now ... he is trying to make things right but i feel he had an emotional affair he wont be firm with her enough so now im so afraid of giving him my all getting my heart broke what should i do i really love him so much .
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2007): You both are moving too fast. If you both just got out of long term relationship, did you have time to both work on yourself?It seems he still loves his ex girlfriend. If you're finding text messages from his ex girlfriend, what makes you think he's not hiding anything else from you? You shouldn't have to look thru his cell phone, that is where the trust factors comes in. Why are you looking thru his cell phone? It also seems he doesn't know what he wants. It's obvious he still loves his ex girlfriend and wants to be with her (fact from text message). His emotions are pulling him one way and another way. You shouldn't have to be in this situation. You see it's hurting you and your boyfriend is hurting himself, you and his ex girlfriend. How can you love someone you just met 7 months ago? He needs to figure out who he wants to be with. Instead of stringing everyone else along. Good luck, girlie.
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