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writes:I don’t want 2 post my name...I have this strong feelings for my new teacher...he doesn’t teach me Of course but every time I see him my heart beat fast...he is the man of my dreams I don’t want him to lose his job but I also can’t afford to look at him every day and pretend like I feel nothing...should I tell him or what?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2015): Honey,
trust me, if you do tell him, (or anyone for that matter), you're going to make the biggest mistake of your life yet!
I know how you feel, and I'm just 3 years older than you. I've gone through with having a bf that's 6 years older than me and I thought that he's the "man of my life". To make a long story short, I hate him today. Older men can seem nice and trustable, but looks can be deceiving.
Getting feelings for older men is very hard to ignore but very dangerous at the same time, even if he's the teacher.
My expert advice to you is... FORGET HIM!! You're still in your early teens, so don't mess that time of your life up with something like this. I'm not trying to sound like I'm preaching to you, but all of this is true! To ignore him will spare you a lot of embarrassment and pain.
It'll be hard to forget him, but it takes time. Soon enough you will have a bf the same age as you and that's good enough for your age. The time you can start thinking about the "man of your life" is when your done with school. You can dream of him or whatever, but leave it there at this stage.
You think that he's the man of your dreams, but he's not.
Your hormones is beginning to work dramatically at your age, but just push through and you'll get a good outcome.
You'll thank me later.
Hope this will put some comfort in you. Good luck and keep your head up high. Living in this world is about making tough decisions, but the right ones. :)
- Just keep breathing. Tomorrow will bring a new sunrise. Who knows what the tide might bring.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2015): You're still a child, and it is not proper for students to tell teachers about their feelings for them.
You're too young to be in-love with an adult, and he cannot return your feelings.
He is the man of your dreams. As you know, dreams are not real. So your feelings of affection are not real to an adult.
It's fine to see him as a good role model and even have a crush. That's healthy and normal.
Your feelings are a secret. You must keep them to yourself. Girls your age should never tell grown men they have feelings for them. Talk like that can cause some very serious trouble, and even cost him his job. If you like him, then behave properly. It is immoral and against the law for him as an adult, to have the same kind of feelings for you.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (1 September 2015):
 No, don't tell him. You aren't in love - you are experiencing a crush - a HUGE crush or infatuation with him.
What exactly do you think will happen if you tell him? That he will declare his undying love for you, like straight out of some romance novel? You may think he is OH so perfect, but he is a grown man, you are still a kid. ANY man with an ounce of integrity, morals and values would NOT respond with mutual feelings for a student, let alone one so young.
And just because YOU have all these fantasies about this teacher, doesn't mean he feels the same way - which undoubtedly he DOESN'T.
Accept reality honey. Having a crush is normal, we ALL get them but it doesn't mean that the person you are crushing on feels the same.
I think if you tell him life will be very awkward for him... and you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2015): You *can* afford to look at him and pretend to feel nothing because he's an adult and you're a child. He would not be a decent guy if he even considered flirting with you, let alone anything else. You have a crush, which is normal, but it fades over time because you have to ignore it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2015): No don't! You will soon get over him at your age & be crushing on someone else soon!
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