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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ok, this may be a little long, but I can promise that it's worth the read.So, about a few months ago I saw this extremely cute guy at a store. He gave me a discount, but being as shy as I am, I didn't say anything. I went back, oh, about 2 weeks ago to shop again. He was there, so I bought something and he, once again, gave me a discount. I subtlety said I'd give him a discount at my store, and told him where I worked.While I was at work, he showed up. He couldn't stay and chat, but he came in to introduce himself and give me his number. So, we've been texting everyday since (he texts me). Flirting, I guess. We made promises to do all this fun stuff together. Just last night I hung out with him, it was interesting. I learned that we have ALOT in common, from our hatred of cold weather, to our double jointed limbs. (Haha, weird conversations were going on). And we were hanging out at the park skipping stones on the little lake, and we made so many promises! Like, we would go out to dinner, we would go to all these amusement parks next summer and get me over my fear of heights, even go on a little road trip. I opened up and told him things I wanted to do, and even though I didn't ask, he was totally willing to help accomplish them. But I know it wasn't a date because we met up with his three friends earlier in the day. But the guy kept talking about girls so casually that I don't know if I'm just one of these girls that are friends, or something more. Like, there's this girl that he's friends with that lives in Arizona, which is a hike from where I live, he's going to drive all the way there to see her, but he invited me. So, it's like, ok, he's willing to be there for his girl friends, but he asked me to go. What does this mean? It's not always fun to hear a crush talk about girls, but it's worse if you're considered "just a friend". But he never mentioned a girlfriend either. He mentioned some exes, but that was it.I really did expect a kiss last night, that's usually what I'm used to when things like this happen, but it didn't happen. Of course, I was recovering from a week long cold, which was obvious by my nasally-ness. That didn't help.Can someone PLEASE help me figure out if he likes me? I would loooove to date him and stuff but I feel like its not gonna happen. And, please, don't say "Oh just flirt." I have been, and I think he flirted back. I can't tell. And I can't say, "Hey, do you like me?" that's not exactly an ice breaker. Just tell me what you think. I mean, he came all that way to give me his number. Being nice, or flirting? I hope it wasn't out of pity because he felt obligated to.Opinions?
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reader, Candid Cally  +, writes (14 November 2012):
I he talks about other girls alot, it is very possible that he has many female friends, and/or friends with benefits.
Why not just tell him that you think that you have good chemistry together. Then ask him if he feels the same and if he would like to maybe go on a date sometime.
Because he talks about other women enough that you noticed, you need to be upfront with him regarding your desire for a relationship...if this is not communicated to him, you could end up in a friends with benefits type relationship.
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