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writes:Can I get engaged while going through divorce?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2009): Why not - if you two really love each other. Who cares if anyone thinks you're the cause of his marriage falling apart - men don't stray for nothing. He may not have felt he was getting enough from her or it may just be that YOU ARE HIS ONE TRUE LOVE. Either way, at the end of the day you are the one who will have to tell everyone to mind their business and then keep him happy, so I reckon ... think carefully then FOLLOW YOUR HEART and goodluck!!!
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reader, deejuliet  +, writes (20 November 2008):
 Certainly you can. I have known several people who have gotten engaged while divorcing. But really, what is the rush. While it is perfectly ok to date while divorcing, it is quite legal and should not have any bearing on the divorce process as long as you are not behaving innapropriately around children, I kind of think it best to take care of one legal bit of business before moving on to the next. As long as the relationship is good waiting a few more months or a year wont make a differance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2008): Absolutely not!
I started dating my boyfriend while he was in the middle of a long divorce, and I regret that even. It is going to take him a long time to heal, and you need to respect that. I wouldn't plan on asking him for another three to five years. It takes about that long before someone gets over a broken marriage, and if you really love him, you will put his best interests as a priority. Think of how you would feel after getting divorced. Wouldn't you want the next marriage to be a careful decision?
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (20 November 2008):
 Think that perhaps it will be better to wait until the divorce is final, otherwise it might look like you are the cause of the divorce even it you are not. You might find that once the divorce is final, he might have second thoughts about getting hitched again......
Honeygirl
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (20 November 2008):
Well since it's just a ring on your finger then yes you can.
There is no reason to believe he will honour it more than any other man, and if he is a traditional guy then he might not want his girlfriend going down on one knee.
If he says yes then it will definitely swing the divorce in her favour since technically that will prove he cheated during marriage.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, molly4  +, writes (20 November 2008):
 well he is probably going through a tough time right now with his divorce so you may want to wait some time until you get engaged, until things become more steady and the divorce is behind him. hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2008): .... but there may be other implications:
http://www.glaisyers.co.uk/Breach%20of%20Promise.htm
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2008): Whoaaaa! What's the rush? Out of the frying pan and into the fire?
Getting engaged is no longer the quasi-legal undertaking it once was and you can't get sued for Breach of Promise like you once could.
There's nothing to stop you, but is it just the status of having a ring on your finger that makes you want to do this?
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