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writes:Hello.I am a just turned 31 year old, married mother of an 8 year old daughter. Last night, our daughter was having a sleepover with a friend a few houses down from ours.My husband and I took the opportunity to enjoy our alone time. We were having a date night at the house. We were watching a horror movie on NetFlix. At my husband's request, I had undressed and was going around the house in the nude. I had made popcorn, and were feeding it to each other, making out and watching the movie, with the best "yet to come".I got up to go into the kitchen and refill my husband's drink when our daughter, using her key, came into the house. She had forgotten something and was picking it up while her hosts waited in the car outside.I mean my daughter comes in and there is her mother butt ass naked in the kitchen. I grabbed a nearby robe and put it on. After our daughter left, my husband I resumed our evening.Today, my daughter asked me why I was naked in the kitchen last night. I told her we would talk about it later (after I hear back from the advisors on the board). How should I explain this to her? Reply to this Question
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reader, agneeman  +, writes (29 August 2013):
 I saw my mom naked all the time and am not in any way scarred by it. Just say you thought you were alone. If she doesn't ask you don't even have to address it. Even a simple " I was just trying to have some private time with Daddy" will do.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 August 2013):
 Honesty... best policy.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (25 August 2013):
We were all born naked, don't make it out to be a big deal and it wont be. My parents weren't nudists, but I saw them both naked over the years growing up and it never bothered me.
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reader, Aunty Babbit  +, writes (25 August 2013):
 Be honest, tell her you find it more comfortable to be naked sometimes but that it's not appropriate to be that way around her, so, because you thought you were alone with daddy you thought it was ok.
Then leave it there, she'll probably accept that and think nothing more of it.
We've all been caught out at some point, but please remember, sex, love and intimacy between her parents is a very normal part of life and should not be made out to be embarrassing or wrong in any way.
Be matter of fact and if you're cool with it, she will be too
Good luck :) x
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (25 August 2013):
 I say just be honest. Your daughter isn't an idiot. Tell her the truth, you were naked because grown ups sometimes enjoy being naked with each other and you enjoy walking around the house naked sometimes when it is just you and your husband. You can tell her that some times you like doing it because it feels nice to just be naked, but that it is always done with the curtains closed so neighbors will not see. Because it is very private, and should only be done in private.
Don't make up an excuse or lie, she'll see right through it (she's not an idiot like I said..). Just say it as it is without too much detail. She will not take harm from it, it's not like she hasn't seen you naked before, right? Nudity is natural, and shouldn't be turned into something shameful or something to hide. If you have a relaxed attitude towards nudity and your own body then your daughter will also grow up feeling comfortable about herself. If you start to excuse it and feel ashamed and embarrassed, then she will learn to be ashamed and embarrassed of her own body as well. So what do you want to teach her?
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