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writes:I met this guy a year ago and we have been taking it slow. Recently his best friend came back to town and is thinking about moving back. He is with us all the time. I don't mind, but... Things he is doing creep me out. He calls me all the time. I recently started to have car problems and my bf suggested I get his friend to help (he's a Mechanic). So now he calls even more. I don't mind being friends with him as well but at first it started out we were only talking about why my bf was taking it slow and small talk...no big deal really just I want more from my bf. He gave me some advice and said he put in a good word for me. But now my bf has back all the way back to just friends.I mean we were talking about going away for the weekend and all that. I found out today that his friend has told my bf something that I never said. I love my bf to death I would give my life for him. I have thought lately that his friend had a thing for me. Just different things he says. I want my bf back the way he was before is friend came back to town. HOW? Do I say I am gonna date other people whether I am or not? Do I really date other people? I need help here. I am only gonna text his friend so that I have proof of what I say to him. I dont know what else to do. Can anyone help?
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reader, Ask oldersister + ♥, writes (3 November 2009):
 Just tell your boyfriend, please. I was in this same predicament a couple of months ago with a guy I just started dating and his supposed "best friend" started texting and calling me all the time. I told the guy I was seeing and he said, "that's a little odd but he's just lonely so it's no big deal"- he had total trust in his so called "best friend". I let it go and that was a big mistake and got out of hand. The best friend started telling me all this bad stuff about the guy I was dating and it put me in a really awkward situation- I didn't know what to believe and suspected he was trying to break us up, he was and after we did, he came after me, yuck. I wasn't really in a position to come between two best friends because he wasn't my boyfriend yet but this is your boyfriend and you should be honest with him so it doesn't blow up in your face. Yes, this guy wants you and may succeed in breaking you guys up if you don't expose him, okay? He's not a friend to either of you!
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reader, Auntie Di  +, writes (3 November 2009):
ok first of all it sounds to me like this bf has been draging his heels just a bit over the last year and now that his so called friend is back on the scene he'd like his cake n eat it. in my opinion if you're really uncomfortable with this unwanted attetion then u need to make it politely clear to this friend.Then i think u need to sit ur bf down n explain how feel n ask him where exactly he sees this relationship going i understand u wanting to take slowly but for goodness sake it's been a year good luck x
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reader, ellie:) + ♥, writes (3 November 2009):
 get the friend to say that he likes u then u could just show that to ur bf and cant make up lies anymore!!!! and if ur bf really cares about u he will go back to normal just the way he was!!
GOOD LUCK:)
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reader, CaringGuy + ♥, writes (3 November 2009):
You need to really talk to your boyfriend about this. Tell him that you're really worried that your relationship seems to be rocky, and has changed since his friend came back. Also, do only text his friend so you have proof (that's a good idea). You really do need to sit your boyfriend down and tell him how you feel. Start there, and see what happens. Hopefully he'll listen to you. It might just be a phase while his friends settles again, but talk to him before anything else.
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