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writes:MOD NOTE: Poster is 18, not age statedJust so ya know am not between the ages of 13-15 I thought when you signed up you had to be around that age. Well am 18 and my boyfriend asked me if I would do anal sex and I said no and he was okay with it but then he asked me if I would ever do a threesum I sed no and he said he would but with a lass. I said that I would with a lad but he said he would prefere a lass because he don't want to wotch some other lad having sex with me. But I don't want him having sex with another woman and he said he wouldnt have sex with her he would play with her. Am not sure wether to give it a try. Any advice and to those who have had a threesum what were you thinking? Is it just my jealousy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2009): Sorry, but I think your boyfriend is just using you for sex, he is at the age where that is pretty much what he is after....it is a hard lesson to learn, but a guy will act "as if" he is in love with you to get sex, a guy will do anything to get sex and he is pushing the limits here to see how far you will go for him in the bedroom.
This screams his lack of respect for you and his view of you as mostly a sexual object/plaything, and from his stage in life he sees all women that way.
Do not invest your heart in this guy, you are going to end up getting hurt....I know it is considered cool in your generation to be sexually experienced and it is if you get a power trip over the fact that you can control a guy with sex and make him your "boyfriend".
But this is damaging to you emotionally, and being sexually "experienced" is not what the true love of your life is going to want you to be for him, in fact it may send the real deal running....so in my humble opinion, you should tell this chump where to get off and you have more self respect than to give into his ridiculous sexual requests. You are not married, you have no real commitment to him, you do not owe the most precious gift you have, your body to HIM, the JERK!
Sorry, I know this isn't what you want to hear, but it is true, do this for him and watch his respect for you completely disappear and watch him back away faster than a crab on the beach.
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reader, Western3589  +, writes (17 January 2009):
 The answer above mine is all too right.A reletionship should be with someone who wants just you. Not you, and other women. He is the kind of person who will leave you, cheat on you etc...
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2009): why is this boy your boyfriend?
you deserve someone who wants to be special and inamate with just you, you need to find someone where just having you is more than enough for them.
'he don't want to wotch some other lad having sex with me.' why does he think you would want to watch another girl with him?
'he wouldnt have sex with her he would play with her' surely that would just be as emoitionally damaging to you.
please find someone who loves you for who you are not how far you'll go in the bedroom
i agree with threesomes when none of the people are in a relationship, but i just think it would be damaging in a safe loving relationship
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