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writes:I have a boyfriend of 5 months and I love him soo much. We're both 17 and he is my first boyfriend ever. Yesterday I logged in his facebook account (we both have each other's password) and saw a conversation of him with this other girl from school in his inbox. When i confronted him about it he said it wasnt him, it was his friend. Its hard to believe because it looks like my boyfriend's writing and i recognize the style of his writing. It went something like this:him: u werent there :(her: i told you i'm not sure of going or not.him: u didnt go at all and u didnt even tell meher: :shim: hmmmher: are u offended by what i just said? no right? ngeee~him: yeah i feel like crying.. ur mean :'*her: :p yeah right.him: of course not i know u.. hehe :P I LOVE YOU!!!!her: hehehe thanks :DDDhim: are u ok? how r u??lets hang out together.her: nahh i feel sick T.T i'm soo dizzy right now :(him: awwwher: @@him: awww my poor baby. LOLher: :P baby? awwwwhim: yup baby.. ;)I'm torn. I told him I don't believe him and he got mad and told me i'm over reacting. He said I was stupid enough to think it was him because he would never do that and it wasn't him and that he love me sooo much. I don't know what to do. A part of me is saying that he's lying to protect himself so that he wont be the bad guy if we seperate because of this, another part of me is hoping that what he said is true. But if he really did it, I wanna break up, i don't wanna be with a guy who lies to me and flirt with another girl. I don't know if i should believe him :'(
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (26 November 2010):
When he said you were overreacting, and claimed you were stupid, that was his final admission of guilt. He just tries to belittle you to feel big.
He's guilty. Worse, he's been found out and is throwing it in your face. Worse than that, he's stupid! I can't believe how stupid he is.
Break up with him, find a decent guy who won't treat you so crappily. He's not worthy of you. He's a lying, cheating, stupid little boy who has no respect for you.
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reader, maverick494  +, writes (26 November 2010):
He calls you stupid for not believing him. Well that´s a classic with liars. They try to turn the tables to make you feel like the guilty one.
Some questions you could ask him come to mind:
1. Why is your friend on your fb pretending to be you? (Don't accept a "I dunno.")
2. More importantly: since you knew he was doing it, why are you okay with that?
3. if you logged into my fb and saw a flirty convo's between me and another boy, how would you react?
If he doesn't give satisfying answers, end it. Your trust in him is wearing thin anyway (judging from your post) so I think this relationship is already headed south.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (26 November 2010):
 You should break up and do it now. That's him, not his friend. How stupid is that? Did Facebook run out of accounts so that his friend doesn't have his own? That's the stupidest lie in the world!
Who cares who's the "bad guy"? Get rid of him for good.
PS. He sounds like an idiot in that conversation. I felt a little of my brain dribbling out of my ear while reading that.
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