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writes:Help, what do I do? I have been dating my boyfriend about 4 weeks last night we slept together. I was under the understanding we were exclusive as he said but then I went to delete my dating account only to be horrified that he is still activily using his account the past week even the day after we slept together. I am angry but I don't want to loose him at the same time. should I ignore this and hope he delete's the profile when he is ready ? Should I re open mine or should I confront him? I feel if I confront him he is the type to get defensive and would dump me and say I am jealous. What should I do ?????
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2013): Wow some harsh replies!!! You did nothing wrong so talk to him. Keep an open mind and be honest with what about what you are looking for with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2013): Guys always think there is something better out there. You
should start thinking the same thing. Take control of your
life. I closed my online dating account to take time for myself. I know my pen pals will miss me but I'm not ready
to deal with the games and lies. You will know when you're
getting stronger because you will not put up with any of it
either. Good wishes always.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 July 2013):
 He SAID you were exclusive? He specifically told you that he deactivated his account?
I agree that 4 weeks of dating is not a lot of time.
even with twice a week that's only 8 dates....
and if it's more than twice a week it's moving too fast....
I would not ignore it.
IF HE SAID YOU ARE EXCLUSIVE and you found his active profile on a dating site you have every right to ask him about it. It will be fun to watch him lie and squirm.
I would not sleep with him again till you trust him.
and you probably never will now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2013): You call him your boyfriend, but has he officially given you a title? Did he say he was going to take down his profile and not date others before you had sex? I think you slept with him way too soon.
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reader, Caring Aunty A  +, writes (22 July 2013):
 I don’t know how anyone can expect to be exclusive after 4 weeks; you hardly know each other. Yet if he, this prefect 4 week stranger says, hey babe we’re exclusive then it must be true? How else does one get a girl into bed so soon?Here you heard the magic word and got in between the sheets with him… (That’s ok.) Yet later you discovered he’s not as exclusive as you thought and are now sounding a little desperate for fear of offending him, being dumped and not wanting to lose him. Obviously you’re not an exclusive couple, and at this stage no-one would be, so I wouldn’t take offensive to him keeping his profile online and you placing yours back up. You both have a different understanding of what exclusive means, and at what stage of the game you actually become exclusive.Simply put, he’s still shopping around (its early days) and unfortunately you've take ‘his’ word too seriously :(Take Care – CAA
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2013): I have been in your shoes, I did not check it but after very long time I came across by accident on his laptop on history. If he has not deleted it by now trust he has no intention of deleting it.
My advice get out while you are not too involved.
There are million of decent men out there looking for a decent lady.
Good luck
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