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writes:So me and my boyfriend have known each other for 6 years(he was my male best friend) and been together for 2 years now and recently he has decided to join the coast guard and I am now officially worried. I know this would be a great opportunity for him because of his financial situation right now but I am scared that our relationship might not work once he joins. I have suffered with trust issues from past relationships and I think being in a long distance relationship will not help these issues and i just keep thinking that he might find somebody else once he joins and of course I have heard how most military men are notorious of cheating. However, we have talked about our future once he joins and marriage but I have mainly been bringing it up. Should i be worried about these issues? and also if anyone is aware of the coast guard, what can I expect once he joins?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (13 November 2013):
 You need to start working on your trust issues. You are not a victim "suffering" with issues. You are a person who has issues, and the only one suffering because of them would be your boyfriend. You, however, are in charge of how you feel and how you express yourself. This isnt something out of your control that you can blame an ex for. Deal with it. Work on it. Manage and cope. Sort out your trust issues, its been two years, its about time. Then you might find the relationship will do a lot better, under any circumstance. Even long distance will not be a problem.
Stop passing blame and take responsibility for your own feelings. You are essentially punishing your boyfriend (not trusting him) for what your ex did.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (13 November 2013):
My niece's husband joined the Coast Guard. I think that's why they got married so young. He likes it and she likes it, it's not too bad. I don't think it's as "bad" as far as other branches of the military. But just like how a lot of military men have been notorious for cheating, their wives are also notorious for it too, it's a two-way street. As far as I know, the Coast Guard is one of the better branches to get into, so you should definitely support him.
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