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male
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30-35,
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writes:Hi all again,I've got a problem this time with a girl I really like. I met her about a month ago and we really like eachother.Even though I knew she had a boyfriend, I told her how I felt about her. She told me that she felt the same way about me. But then she said to me in a text that we couldn't be together because she already was with someone else. And that is really sucked to say that to me. She is also unstable with her boyfriend now. She tells me that she has fights with him every week or so, but they always recover from it shortly after. I really want to be with her but I don't know how I should proceed. I think I still have a chance as she told me she was having a hard time trying not to kiss me. Any advice is deeply appreciated.
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reader, N91  +, writes (18 September 2011):
 If she liked you enough she would come to you.
I always wonder though, if you did hook up with her whilst she was in a relationship, you know she's willing to cheat...
Good luck.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (18 September 2011):
 I think you need to just back off and let her come to you. Either she will or she won't, but starting the relationship through cheating can't end well. You need to just wait and let her choose, either you or your boyfriend. Either she wants to be with you or with him, but she needs to choose first.
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (18 September 2011):
 Leave her alone until she is single. And right now, it doesn't seem like she likes you enough to break up with him. So until she does, then it's a good idea to just stop communicating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2011): That is not "messed up" for her to say to you. She is being honest and upfront. Even if she and her boyfriend are arguing it doesnt mean she doesnt still love and respect him. Why are you doing this? Do you really want to be with someone would be willing to drop their man the second they hit a rough patch and a new guy comes along? If she does it for you, there is a huge chance she will do it TO you. I have seen it a million times over. If you actually care about this girl you should actually TRY TO UNDERSTAND her feelings and give her space and respect. That is what caring about someone is about. She needs time to sort everything out and she doesnt need you taking that personal and getting mad about it. THEN maybe once shes single (if that even happens), you can give it a try. WHy would you want to be a homewrecker? How would you feel if you were the boyfriend who was with her and some guy was doing what you are doing right now?
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