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writes:hellosthank you very much. me and my ex broke up four weeks ago. I broke up with her because her explanation to a certain text to her 'friend' was not satisfactory. We were having problems too but I was the centre. Communication has been minimal and more so because we removed each other from the social networks after I saw her flirting with a certain random guy. I wanted to give them space. I love her and not a single day has passed without me thinking about her. I have worked on things that made has broke up but I dont know if she wants me back into her life. the other day she texted me with a 'curious message'.. I got worried and called her back immediately and it only turned out that she wanted to know if I still care for her. that same day she made an effort and came to where I work to see me. We didn't talk much though. whenever we talk,she tells me there is no one special she is seeing though she admits that many are after her(am not scared because they were before too)I usually pray and ask for guidance but whenever I do so, I get complicated dreams about her. I dream of her being with another man or choosing another man over me! I dont have self confidence problems but this is now getting weird. my dreams kind of comes true usually. please:a) judging by her action, is it that she was trying to reach out for me?(but she doesn't even seem interested a times and would not even reply my text) b) do I trust these dreams and just let her be?c) how do I apologise and make her believe that am really changed?...Considering I initiated the break up. I really need her back because I love her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you very much..i dropped her an email earlier, she is going through a tough time, she lost her aunt. i had textd her the other day to tell her let her knw tht it was nice of her to make an effort to see me. she had thanked me for that gesture and thts how i learnt of her aunt's demise.
i will do my best if she agrees to see me again.
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reader, FloridaCatGirl  +, writes (29 January 2011):
 I am sorry about your recent break-up. I have no doubt that you are feeling hurt and confused. I will do my best to answer your questions.
a) It's hard to say what she is feeling right now. She reached out to you and asked if you if you still care about her. That indicates she still cares for you, but it doesn't necessarily mean she wants to get back together. You said she appears disinterested at times, and fails to respond to your text messages. That is not a good sign. However, the fact that you were the one who broke off the relationship instead of her, means there is a possibility she may want to work things out with you.
b) Personally, I don't believe dreams have anything to do with foretelling the future. During REM, the frontal lobes of your brain that are responsible for critical analysis, are turned off. That's why your dreams don't always make sense. So, don't worry about your dreams.
c) If you feel like you want to apologize to her and work things out, I suggest you invite her over for dinner and have a heart to heart talk. When she comes over, give her some flowers. Tell her that you realize now that you jumped to conclusions about her correspondence with other men. Tell her you are genuinely sorry for your actions and you are actively working on your issues with jealousy. Let her know that you love her, miss her, and want her back in your life as your girlfriend.
I wish you all the best! Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2011): Just ask her if she still wants to be with you. And the dreams could just be your worries about getting back with her.
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