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writes:I am 40, and have a best friend 32, who has just got a new boyfriend who is 20. This is quite a long story so bear with me. The relationship between me and my best friend is purely platonic, but a slight complication is that he has limited money so often I pay/lend for things. My best friend and I have recently been away on holiday and had a great time, during this holiday we arranged another sporting based trip. It was near the end of the first trip he met his new boyfriend. I understand that this guy is very young, he's a bit immature and he's also quite possessive/jealous and it's his first relationship. Sometimes if my friend is visiting me his b/f will call with a dramatic problem which means my friend has to leave and go to see his b/f. It doesn't bother me him leaving but I feel he's being played. Anyway after much deliberation we went on our sporting trip but it did not go well. One day during the trip his b/f video called and went crazy, accusing me of buying a friend and him of being a whore, so all over the top. Next day its all apologies and my best friend thinks we should all forget and just move on. Unfortunately this is not the first time this sort of thing has happened. I know his b/f is immature but he said some nasty stuff and I think he believes it. I am now thinking I should maybe cut the friendship with my friend as a lot of respect between us has been lost, also as long as I am around, his b/f will always be creating situations which are really quite petty. Do you think I should say we should not be friends or just accept its immaturity and forget?
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (28 September 2012):
 If you are paying for your best friend's holidays and other treats I can understand his new boyfriend's concerns .... as I am sure you could too, if you took a moment to look at the situation from where he is standing.
You friend needs to decide if he prefers to keep his boyfriends and pay his own way or continue to accept your generousity and pay the price of unsettled relationship.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (27 September 2012):
 My take... just let the friendship with your BF fade for the duration of the romance with the new shiny toy (the young bf)
If your BF is like you he will tire of the drama sooner rather than later...
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