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female
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30-35,
*ijackedheart
writes:my boyfriend and i are long distance. he asks me to do things on webcam that i feel uncomfortable doing but i think if i dont then i'll loose him. i still dont do it. but idk what to do. if i had the confidence yeah i would. but i dont and when i dont do it he cuts. any advice would be great on this :) x
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reader, Red Green 0289  +, writes (27 July 2009):
I'd get him on the web cam, and then hold up a sign that said "Oh, BTW - I'm dumping you"... and then pull the plug...This is NO WAY for a guy to treat a woman who he's supposed to care about. Dump this A-hole, and go find a guy who will treat you right!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (11 April 2009):
This is emotional blackmail and it's horrible.
What you should do is get his home phone number and then when he says he's going to cut - You call his mummy.
When she bursts into his room having just been told his slitting his arms open because he's trying to force a girl to show herself on camera he's not going to feel so cool and powerful then.
He won't DARE do it again after his parents know about it.
This guy is horrible and abusive to you so call his parents tell them what he is doing and then dump him.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, tired82 +, writes (11 April 2009):
 Don't do it. My husband and I were long distance and he never dared to ask me to do anything sexual on webcam. On the contrary he was sure to tell me not to due to hackers and stuff like that. You never know who could be watching without you knowing and then post your video anywhere on youtube or what have you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2009): Honey - you don't need to be presurised like this! Trust me it would be so much better if you ended this all now - he is being sick and even though atm. it feels like you are in the wrong, you aren't. Don't show him anything, he is sick.
(Oh, and satindesire I think she meant he ends the convo)
You can do so much better than this!
Cc xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2009): This is terrifying to read. First of all he should not be making you do things on a webcam (especially sexually) as you do not know who is watching or recording you on the other side. Also if he threatens to cut himself if you refuse I would call the police, tell your family or someone at school about this. Your BF is ill and is going to drag you down with him like he is trying to do now. Run run run away from this guy!
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reader, littlemomma +, writes (11 April 2009):
 DONT DO IT!! It's so not worth it. If he isnt willing to let it go and will leave you if you dont, then he isnt the guy for you. Remember, EVERYthing you put on the internet even if you think it's secure, is available to anyone who has interest or is even just bored. I wouldnt take the risk if I was you.
Good luck!!
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