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I'm 13, Should I wait to have a child with my 17 year old boyfriend?

Q.   my boyfriend and i want to have a baby. we are both in our teens (im 13 he is 17) and unsure if we should wait??? please help...

A.   15 June 2009: OMG I'm 26 and still waiting. Children are no joke. You have to give up a lot and provide a lot for them as well... Why are you thinking of children at 13? You're just a baby. Live your life first before taking the step into parenthood. Do ... (read in full...)

My husband kept pressuring me for sex when I was depressed

Q.   My mom recently died and so I been a bit depress lately. I stopped wanting to do anything sexual with my husband. He was really annoyed by it. He still kept pressuring me. Anyway he come home really wasted and he come behind me and played with my ...

A.   13 June 2009: Sometimes men don't know how to demonstrate their love to us except for in the sexual form. Some show their romantic, loving and caring side wanting to have sexual intercourse. He probably feels hurt inside as well since you are depressed and ... (read in full...)

What do I do if I meet the woman my husband had an affair with?

Q.   I have to attend this social event and the woman my husband had a short affair with is going to be there. I never met her before, just know how she looks like from her Facebook. They are not together now, my husband dumped her to come back to his ...

A.   6 June 2009: Definitely attend the event. Don't look for her. Enjoy the event. If she approaches you, ignore her and move on. Don't waste your time. Your husband is with you and will be by your side at the event. You have your family to think of, don't let ... (read in full...)

My wife has doubled in size, I've lost interest in sex..do I leave her to get her to get in shape?

Q.   When I proposed to my wife she was 5' and a perfect size zero. She had lovely long hair and walked like a graceful lady. Exactly my type. Now after 15 yrs of marriage she's a size 14-16 w/ short hair and walks like a chimp. Doubling her weight ...

A.   6 June 2009: Okay, first of all I don't think you are shallow. I think you are human. You love your wife but are no longer interested in her sexually. You are right you can't continue with a sexless life. So do something about it. Don't threaten her with ... (read in full...)

What a mess I'm in!

Q.   I met this 23 year old woman back in november. I am 31. Prior to having met her I had broken up from a 10 year relationship that brought about 2 children, who are now 9 and 5. This woman and I went out for the first time a few weeks after meeting. ...

A.   17 May 2009: You're not in a mess. If you love her then stick it through. The past is the past. If you feel she is real to you and loves you and won't cheat on you then give it a try. People make mistakes especially at a young age. If she didn't tell you ... (read in full...)

Follow up: Thoughts about going to and working in Spain

Q.   My heart is breaking a little, but I'm not in love with a man, but in love with another culture and another country. I would like to know if any of you have heard of someone like me (a North American with no European roots) who was able to live...

A.   19 April 2009: Check out the following site: http://www.mir.es/SGACAVT/extranje/normativa_basica.html It has all the information you need. Good luck. ... (read in full...)

Is this fixable? Should I give it another try? Should I let it go?

Q.   I am 23 years old with a 10 month old son. Abit of a long story//sorry! Please Help ME!! I met this guy who was 13 yrs older than me when I was 17 years old. He convinced me to go out with him, keeping it secret from both our families, until I ...

A.   17 April 2009: Every marriage goes through it's ups and downs. Now, that you are without him you are realizing that you love him and rather be by his side. The fact that you were away from you family and having to take care of your household, school, and chil... (read in full...)

Being forced to do things on a webcam

Q.   my boyfriend and i are long distance. he asks me to do things on webcam that i feel uncomfortable doing but i think if i dont then i'll loose him. i still dont do it. but idk what to do. if i had the confidence yeah i would. but i dont and when i ...

A.   11 April 2009: Don't do it. My husband and I were long distance and he never dared to ask me to do anything sexual on webcam. On the contrary he was sure to tell me not to due to hackers and stuff like that. You never know who could be watching without you ... (read in full...)

I cant help my self to be so insecure

Q.   my fiance and i have been together for almost three year now.. there is a 7 yr age difference between us.. at the begining of our relationship (about 3-5 months into the realtionship) i caught him a couple of times looking a his ex's page (his f...

A.   4 April 2009: I think it's normal for you to feel how you feel and do the things you do. You have been cheated on and don't want to go through it again. But it isn't fair to your boyfriend. You have been with him for 3 years now, if he didn't love you he ... (read in full...)

What's your take on Manscaping?

Q.   Hi Everyone, What's your take on Manscaping? Do you think a man should keep his pubic region trimmed, natural, shaved? I see lots of girls ask about this but I think it is becoming more common for men as well. I know it is personal prefere...

A.   4 April 2009: Definitely trimmed and clean cut. As others stated, it depends on the males preference and his partners as well, that is if he's willing to take her opinion into consideration. ... (read in full...)

I am liberally sexual and want to experiment, does that make me gay?

Q.   I want to have a full sexual contact threesome with a man woman couple and I want to experience everything there is to do does that make me gay?...

A.   4 April 2009: It makes you bi and not gay.... (read in full...)

Met someone new and better than my boyfriend. What do I do?

Q.   I have been on and off with my boyfriend of almost two years. I feel like our relationship has gone through a very rough patch. It is not easy, even though we loved each other. All these times I have been working hard to make the relationship to ...

A.   4 April 2009: Remember you can't change anyone. You have to accept them for who they are. With that said it seems like you love your boyfriend but are feeling a little lonely because he's not demonstrating the extra attention you need. You are looking for ... (read in full...)

I'm a virgin but I haven't had my period in 2-3 months

Q.   Ok I'm 13 and I'm a virgin but I havnt had my period in 2 almost 3 months and I'm too scared to tell my mom what should I do?????...

A.   24 March 2009: Are you involved in sports? Many times young girls who are athletes miss periods due to excess workout to the body. Also because of the stress brought on by the competitions, practices, etc. ... (read in full...)

I'm a virgin but I haven't had my period in 2-3 months

Q.   Ok I'm 13 and I'm a virgin but I havnt had my period in 2 almost 3 months and I'm too scared to tell my mom what should I do?????...

A.   24 March 2009: Are you involved in sports? Many times young girls who are athletes miss periods due to excess workout to the body. Also because of the stress brought on by the competitions, practices, etc. ... (read in full...)

He left our family abandoned overseas for the military life!

Q.   Hello Everyone, I came across this website by accident and what a blessing. I am hoping that some of you can make sense of what's going on with me. Here is my story in a nutshell: I have been married 5 years and have 2 children. We had the perfect ...

A.   24 March 2009: I'm so sorry you are going through this. It must be so hard. I'm going to give you my perspective and advice. Don't give up on your marriage. You have two kids to care for and a good job in Japan. It seems like you are comfortable. He can't ... (read in full...)

Why would he even what to try for a baby knowing I would be her dealing with it alone?

Q.   I married my high school sweetheart and he is the love of my life, he joined the army shortly after we graduate (a few yeard later we got married). He knows that he will be going overseas before summer. I don't want him to go and have expressed ...

A.   24 March 2009: Unfortunately your husband has no choice, he has to go overseas. He is right you knew of the responsibilities he was going to have being in the military before marrying him so you've got to deal with them. He has no option in choosing to leave or ... (read in full...)

How can I change him? or am I over-reacting.

Q.   Hello, I am 23yrs old and have been married for nearly 2 years. I moved away from my home town 5 years ago and met my husband soon after. He is a lovely man, but i never imagined my life to be like this. I love him very much, he is my strength. ...

A.   22 March 2009: To all responders: I'm in a similar situation and your advice makes complete sense and seems like your right about everything. Thank you for posting.... (read in full...)

My husband cheated on me for eight years

Q.   Hope you can help...... My husband cheated on me for eight years, it took him 5 years to be done with her completely always begging me not to divorce him and take the kids. I stayed but I think she ended it more then he did. He has become a real...

A.   17 March 2009: Obviously your husband cares about you and his family because he terminated his affair. I am a true believer that people cheat because of the lack of something in their relationship. Do you love him? If you do please try to forgive him and be ... (read in full...)

Should I leave my boyfriend that has babymama drama?

Q.   My current boyfriend of 5 months has an ex who is also the mother of his child of 7months. They talk or text almost everyday "about their son" sure. I asked him did he still love her and he says he do but he is not in love with her. She gets angry ...

A.   17 March 2009: It's up to you if you should move on to someone else. If the situation you are in bothers you now well just know that it will continue to bother you in the future because she's always going to be in his life due to the child they have in common. ... (read in full...)

She wants to get married, but I want to wait!

Q.   I've been with my Girlfriend for years now and we live together and have been doing well. I love her very much and want to be with her for a very long time. She wants to get married but I don't really want to. She thinks I don't want to because I ...

A.   17 March 2009: Have you told her how you really feel regarding her financial situation? Since your credit and finances are so great why don't you try helping her get hers together. Have you made an attempt in helping her? Help her build a budget, set financial ... (read in full...)

Follow up: I am dating my older married boss

Q.   Well, alot of you had ALOT of negitive feed back with my first question, but I was willing to give it another try. for those of you who didnt read my first question, I have been involved with my older married boss for 7 months now. He just lef...

A.   14 March 2009: If this man is leaving his wife and kids for you... I wish you good luck cause once he's bored with you he's bound to do it to you too... Good luck. Your parents will probably not accept him for what he did. ... (read in full...)

Am I married to the most selfish man alive?

Q.   Is it just me or is the man I'm married to really selfish? We've been married for almost 2 years and together for 3 years. Last year for Christmas I spent $2000 on him. He bought me $100 worth of junk that to this day I don't use. For his ...

A.   14 March 2009: Lani, I used to be like you a giver and not a receiver. Until one day after lots of complaining my husband told me that money isn't everything in the world and he is right as are the other commenters to your post. It feels nice to receive gift... (read in full...)

Sufficated by Jealousy

Q.   I've been married to my wife for about three months now and we dated for about a year before hand. The problem is her jealousy is suffocating. She showed signs of being the jealous type while dating but I thought that would go away after I showed my ...

A.   14 March 2009: Since I am on the other side of the scope. What I can tell you is that you shouldn't give up on your recent marriage. There are reasons behind her jealousy. I'm sure she loves you deeply and is afraid to lose you. Hence her jealous beha... (read in full...)

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