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writes:How to make a white guy understand you are interested in him?Asking him out surely didn't help. We Indians are so culturally different from the west I wonder what would be the right way to send some cues for the guy that I want us to be more than friends. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 November 2016):
 You have asked him out, my guess is that he turned you down. Usually that is enough to say he is not interested.
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reader, like I see it  +, writes (26 November 2016):
 Am I reading correctly that you have asked him out already? If yes, and if he declined when you asked him (or failed to take you up on whatever you suggested doing) I'm afraid you have no choice but to respect his decision and move on. You have put your feelings out there, bravely so I might add, but there's no way to make someone else romantically interested in you if they currently are not.
If you haven't actually expressed any feelings to him and that sentence is something I've misinterpreted, I actually think being direct with him and asking him out (could be for something very casual like a midday coffee to start off with) is the best way to go about it. You mention cultural differences, and if he's sensitive to those at all he may hesitate to assume that you are flirting with him, or that casual hints or cues you might give mean what he thinks they might mean as opposed to meaning something different in your culture than they do in his. Being direct and using words rather than subtle hints cuts through all of that and ensures that one way or another you will get a clear answer, as opposed to wondering if the way you meant something and the way he interprets it are one and the same.
Hope this helps. Good luck and best wishes!
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (26 November 2016):
 Normally, I'm all for interracial relationships, but your culture may be too different for this to work long term, and it's not a good idea to start dating a white man if your family/culture won't approve, if you plan to keep your culture.How would your culture view a relationship between you?
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