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*ballchick
writes:I have a big relationship problem. I have known this guy for several years and we have dated on and off... Last summer it got very serious and then he went away to college. Before leaving for school he hit and killed a little boy in a car accident. He went to school and then a couple of months later we broke up... This summer we picked up where we left off and it has again been great... but yesterday was the anniversary of the accident and he has been acting very weird. I am also going to college soon and we have been very close and I wonder what is up... Got any ideas?
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reader, beautifultrustnlover +, writes (17 August 2007):
 he may feel guilt from what has happend but just be there for you it always has to get worse before it gets better just let him know your always there for him if he wants to talk listen but dont make him and you should take things slow and just show him your there for him always
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reader, bballchick +, writes (17 August 2007):
bballchick is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe has sought help but then he didn't keep going because he said it made it worse. He said he loves me but that he wants to take it slow but i think he is having a hard time with us both leaving for different schools. He has not been suicidal but when he decides to drink he talks about the accident alot. I love him and i know in my heart he is the one for me.....what should i do?
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reader, bballchick +, writes (17 August 2007):
bballchick is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe has seen a counselor but then quit. I know he should continue but he won't ....I feel that if i can just be there for him then maybe he will reconsider...but the last few days he is pushing me away. My mom says it is a combination of the accident anniversary and the fact that he and i are going away to school and emotionally it is easier to separate when you are distant.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (17 August 2007):
 His guilt and maybe a depression? When you say he acted weird...do you mean suicidal? He did accidentally kill a child...that is something that will stay with anyone for the rest of his life.
Has he sought professional help for this?
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, katypnuts  +, writes (17 August 2007):
any accident where someone is killed will never be forgotten,something like that will change his life forever but it doesnt mean he cant live a normal life, i have a friend in the same situation but his girlfriend is very understanding and patient with him i think this is what you need to do if he wants to talk about it fine but if he loses it now and again dont worry its perfectly normal.
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