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writes:I,ve been dating my boyfriend for nearly four months now and last weekend we had sex for the first time! Wel it was my first time as i was a virgin. Since then he hasn't really texted me much except for wedensday night where he asked me away for the weekend and also said he wanted to show me how to drive. I don't know if he was being serious or not but since then he hasn't texted me. I went through everythingin my head and I,m sure i did nothing wrong. And I don't want to seem desperate texting him constantly. What should I do? Is all he wanted was Sex? How can I control this?
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (16 October 2011):
 It could be that he is feeling guilty or awkward. I would say that would be the better explanation than he just wanted sex. Are you feeling guilty or awkward? If you are it could be that he is sensing that in your communications.
If you've dated for 4 months and the communication is unusual, I think you should "call-not text" and try to have a conversation about what is going on. If you are having sex, then you should be at that level in the relationship where the two of you can talk openly about your feelings.
And I agree with the other poster, go back to the old relationship until you are at that point. Who knows, it could be that he doesn't want sex all the time but now he feels like that is the expectation of this "new phase" of the relationship.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (16 October 2011):
 If he was just wanting sex from you I really doubt that he would have dated you for four months just to wait for a quickie and then go again. Am sure there is some other explanation over it. It could be a million reasons but only he knows the answer. So if it is unusual for him to go this long without contacting you, well then send him a text and ask him is he ok and tell him that you are worried that something is wrong because you feel he has been quite distant. Be open and honest with him.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (16 October 2011):
 Well the ideal answer is you shouldn't have jumped into sex this early, when you're not a hundred percent sure of EVERYTHING, including your feelings for each other. But what's done is done. Look OP, no one except him will know what he really wanted. Maybe he just wanted to have sex, maybe he's himself not sure about how he "performed" and he's unsure about your reaction, maybe its just that awkward silence that sometimes follows sex. Who knows? Just don't do it anymore till you can be sure of his feelings for you. A few minutes of pleasure is not worth all these questions that follow. Hold back.
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reader, Miss Real  +, writes (16 October 2011):
I dont really know what to say, you can never really know another human beings intentions unless you take the risk to find out.Which you have done.What i will say to is to leave it for a couple of days dont contact him as you have been doing that, and have had no success.Then after a couple of days if you still dont here from him, if you know where he lives then pay him a visitp.s was nearly 4 months long enough to give something so important away.
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