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writes:HeyI know a girl who has been a prostitute. I met her at a pub about 7 months ago. We started going out a bit. THen she told me. She was one for many years. She says she is out of the life now.I believe in the past is the past. But my mates tell to watch out. "Once a ho, always a ho" excuse my language. That is what they say.I feel like there may be truth in this. She is very self centered. Also she is overly touchy feely. Do you think there may be psychological damage? Can she be gf material?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2012): There is ALWAYS serious psychological trauma with the sex trade, some of it comes from the trade activities itself, other predates their involvement and is the source of their entry into the sex trade.
It is almost always denied at first.
It comes out later in ways that are unpredictable and highly destructive to relationships and lives.
Do not enter into any type of relationship with this person unless you and she are crystal clear on the boundaries in the relationship and you are both in couples as well as individual counseling.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2012): "Do you think there may be psychological damage?"
Yes, both leading her into and resulting from "the life."
"Can she be gf material?"
Possibly, but it will take a lot of work and require a lot therapy.
If you think you can be her knight in shining armour and "rescue" her from her past, then disabuse yourself of that notion now and forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2012): Ok if she says she's done then maybe she is once a hoe always a hoe not true I was friends with a girl who was a prositute and I didn't no she was till we got closer she's a awsome girl but she had a lot of issues family kicked her out and she resorted to doing that now she wanted to get on her feet I helped her with getting a job and she ended up being with my dad but they have been together 4 6 years and she's not a hoe and your friends are very rude unless u get to no someone you shouldn't jugde but some girls don't want to change! Question is she working? If what a descent job? That's how to help and make sure all will be well if she acts like all touchy with you and nobody else then its not a problem maybe she just wants to feel needed and that's the way she thinks to keep you or something! If it bothers you tell her to take it slow!
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reader, tottenhamhotspur  +, writes (8 May 2012):
People's pasts are exactly that.
She might think it was a fine move at that point, or she may be regretful.
You both need to talk about it and how it might effect your relationship if you have any concerns.
If not, what is the issue?
I wouldn't want my girlfriend holding every mistake I made against me. People change.
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