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writes:1. I loved a girl (two long years ago and she was not very impressed with me and didn't want me to contact her again !). She is a gemini and I'm a virgo. I read a lot about the matching thing in the net etc and all say its the worst match possible !Is that true?BTW, I've some different characteristics compared to the 'classic virgo'. I've that dual nature that a gemini said to have. And she's different(to a classic gemini) too, very orderly, systematic and conservative. But she does have that dual side to her. Sometimes she behaves like a child and creates some (bad)scenes (like me !). So, what is your opinion ?Should I leave her ?2.I dont think I'm ready for a marriage, I'm still very playful and a bit childish. But my family thinks otherwise !!I don't have many friends and I've never opened my heart to anyone as I felt they are not 'safe'.But these days, I just want to share my feelings with someone who would stand by me. I just want to love some one!! Considering my low self-confidence, I dont think I can win a girl over and start a relationship. So the arranged marriage seems to be the only option. And that is the problem. I'm scared of marriage LOL !My dad says its 'normal' and I would learn to be responsible gradually after the marriage !Can I believe him ?? 3. How accurate is the horoscope thing, I mean the birth signs ?I mentioned about that virgo-gemini (mis)match (thats what they say!). Can it be used as a reliable 'filter' ?Thoses sites say the best match for a virgo is capricorn, cancer and taurus !What is your experience ?Do you guys consider birth-signs as a factor in starting a relationship ? Thank you very much !
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reader, anthonynj +, writes (8 July 2010):
anthonynj is verified as being by the original poster of the question There is correction....its "reason" instead of "season" :$
I was using T9 text input from my mobile !
I wish we had an edit feature :-o
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reader, anthonynj +, writes (7 July 2010):
anthonynj is verified as being by the original poster of the question@tisha
Yeah, I get what you're sayin.
But, I'm afraid of girls hiding their true self. Combine this with the Catholic church's 'no divorce' policy, I've to get it right the first time :-( !
There is immense pressure on me to get married but because of this season, I'm stalling it.
I was hoping that the birth signs would let me know their charactor which was wrong (that is what you're saying, right ?)
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (7 July 2010):
 Pre-judging someone on the basis of a horoscope seems to me to be a bad idea. You may imagine that you see traits that aren't there or ignore things that are. Why can't you simply get to know someone for who they are, without having to label or categorize them?
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reader, anthonynj +, writes (7 July 2010):
anthonynj is verified as being by the original poster of the question@eyeswideopen
Yup !
But I'm so scared to take them as I fear it may hurt them :-S !
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (7 July 2010):
 Cute baby
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reader, anthonynj +, writes (7 July 2010):
anthonynj is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys for answering my (silly) questions !
Let me clarify on some points....
1.Birthsigns:
I dont think that its 100% right, but before meeting someone, you wont know her charactor, right?
So I just want to use it to get a rough idea.
2.About the girl I like:
She was forced to say it by her mom. I got this 'info' from a relative of her who's a friend of mine.
Anyway, you are saying that the birthsigns are unreliable, right ?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (6 July 2010):
 Oh, I am sorry, but I must have skipped that part when you said Virgo's best match is capricorn, cancer and taurus! They didn't say that online back when I checked it! It was 3 years ago though so maybe they have updated who Virgo matches with later on...?
I think a point has been made though, online horoscopes are not reliable at all.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (6 July 2010):
Just as a comment on the horoscopes. I dated a perfect match one time. Me Saggitarius, he Virgo, and Virgo is Saggitarius' opposite sign or a good match. We also matched numerologically, me a 2, he a 7, which is the perfect combination for each other. But it didn't work.
Like many people have come to discover, horoscopes don't always tell the truth about a person. Like a friend of mine who read the perfect description of her on a horoscope, except it wasn't her sign...
I do however have a bit of faith in the older Asian ways of reading the stars and then adding in numerology and all aspects of a person life to find the perfect match for an agreed marriage between two newborns. That is impressive. I hope it works for them. But as it is, there is no proof of it working or not working.
I personally opt for horoscopes being nothing more than guidance. You can always work to improve yourself and change your path in life. I mean what if horoscopes said you were destined to be a drug addict.. I think you would be able to fight that quite well.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (6 July 2010):
If she asked you to leave her alone, leave her alone. You're spending a great deal of time trying to fix something that she has no interest in doing. Why is that? Why wouldn't you be figuring out how to conquer your low self-esteem and build up your confidence? Develop some hobbies or skills that you are very good at and that will start to help. Exercise is good for boosting your mood as well, all those helpful and lovely endorphins after a good workout. Instead of researching Sun signs, get out in the fresh air or to the gym and work on your physique!
I pay no attention to birth signs whatsoever. It's just a fanciful thing someone figured out how to get paid for years and years ago. As a predictor of relationship success, I'd have to see some valid scientific studies before I'd even consider it remotely possible.
Good luck with your love life. Work on yourself first and you should see your confidence grow.
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