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Are birth-signs a factor in starting a relationship?

Q.   1. I loved a girl (two long years ago and she was not very impressed with me and didn't want me to contact her again !). She is a gemini and I'm a virgo. I read a lot about the matching thing in the net etc and all say its the worst match possible ...

A.   8 July 2010: There is correction....its "reason" instead of "season" :$ I was using T9 text input from my mobile ! I wish we had an edit feature :-o... (read in full...)

Are birth-signs a factor in starting a relationship?

Q.   1. I loved a girl (two long years ago and she was not very impressed with me and didn't want me to contact her again !). She is a gemini and I'm a virgo. I read a lot about the matching thing in the net etc and all say its the worst match possible ...

A.   7 July 2010: @tisha Yeah, I get what you're sayin. But, I'm afraid of girls hiding their true self. Combine this with the Catholic church's 'no divorce' policy, I've to get it right the first time :-( ! There is immense pressure on me to get married but ... (read in full...)

True Love: Fact or Fiction?

Q.   Let me tell you a story. When I was a little girl I used to pretend that I was a princess who was awaiting prince charming. He was always the picture perfect man: tall, lean, stunning, poetic, and the type of guy who'd sweep you off your feet. I...

A.   7 July 2010: WOW Amazing story ! Thanks for sharing ! And yeah, I'm waiting for my princess....though I'm not ready :-)... (read in full...)

Are birth-signs a factor in starting a relationship?

Q.   1. I loved a girl (two long years ago and she was not very impressed with me and didn't want me to contact her again !). She is a gemini and I'm a virgo. I read a lot about the matching thing in the net etc and all say its the worst match possible ...

A.   7 July 2010: @eyeswideopen Yup ! But I'm so scared to take them as I fear it may hurt them :-S ! ... (read in full...)

Are birth-signs a factor in starting a relationship?

Q.   1. I loved a girl (two long years ago and she was not very impressed with me and didn't want me to contact her again !). She is a gemini and I'm a virgo. I read a lot about the matching thing in the net etc and all say its the worst match possible ...

A.   7 July 2010: Thanks guys for answering my (silly) questions ! Let me clarify on some points.... 1.Birthsigns: I dont think that its 100% right, but before meeting someone, you wont know her charactor, right? So I just want to use it to get a rough id... (read in full...)

Do guys get over their first love and girls dont?

Q.   i just want to know one thing,which is really frustrating so guys get over their first love they say they do but y cant i ever agree to them although i want to.. isn't it hard to forget the first love? ...

A.   21 May 2009: Yep,its very very hard to forget the first love! Its been 1.5yrs since i was forced to go away from my love but still i cant spend a day without thinkin of her! She's haunting me!!!!!!!!!... (read in full...)

How can I know when a girl is in love with me?

Q.   So there is this girl at our church who smiles at me all the time. She hardly takes her eyes of me when ever she see me,be it at church, bus etc She is very cute but only 17 yrs old while i'm 23. So i ignored her all the time. But now that i ...

A.   15 May 2009: I'm from the state of Kerala(Gods own country,as they say in ads!!) and dont speak Hindi but i can understand wat u mean! Thanx 4 the tips! BTW,i read somewhere that takin the time off is a good test of genuiness! Its been some time since i go... (read in full...)

How can I know when a girl is in love with me?

Q.   So there is this girl at our church who smiles at me all the time. She hardly takes her eyes of me when ever she see me,be it at church, bus etc She is very cute but only 17 yrs old while i'm 23. So i ignored her all the time. But now that i ...

A.   13 May 2009: If ask her whether she loves me or not,the answer would be yes,i feel! The thing is that it just may be a crush or an infatuation considering her age (sweet 17!) Is there any 'love test' to determine whether its true love or not? ... (read in full...)

How can I know when a girl is in love with me?

Q.   So there is this girl at our church who smiles at me all the time. She hardly takes her eyes of me when ever she see me,be it at church, bus etc She is very cute but only 17 yrs old while i'm 23. So i ignored her all the time. But now that i ...

A.   13 May 2009: Mr.Insignificant,i'm an Indian. But being a Roman Catholic,i dont have to follow Hindu traditions! The thing is that i wanted to know how can i determine whether she likes me or its just an infatuation! How can i know that? ... (read in full...)

Lack of confidence....

Q.   The problem with me is that I have absolutely no confidence in me! I'm short and lean (5'11 and 58kg), ugly, talks tech 24 hours, jobless (thanks 2 the sharemarkets!) I just cant think I'm good! And those^^ feelings comes in my way when I t...

A.   26 February 2009: BTW,there is another 'issue' i'm facing! There is this girl in our church who is sort of 'stalking' me! She stares and giggles @me all the time,but i just ignores her coz she is just ~16 yrs of age! I'm concerned that if this start into an affai... (read in full...)

Lack of confidence....

Q.   The problem with me is that I have absolutely no confidence in me! I'm short and lean (5'11 and 58kg), ugly, talks tech 24 hours, jobless (thanks 2 the sharemarkets!) I just cant think I'm good! And those^^ feelings comes in my way when I t...

A.   25 February 2009: Ed: i get u! Confidence and self-esteem is a must FOR succes,but i lack the latter the most! I think i should consult a councellor,right? The next time i wud (try to)avoid tech jargon but i dont know y girls dnt lke it??? And 'system... (read in full...)

Lack of confidence....

Q.   The problem with me is that I have absolutely no confidence in me! I'm short and lean (5'11 and 58kg), ugly, talks tech 24 hours, jobless (thanks 2 the sharemarkets!) I just cant think I'm good! And those^^ feelings comes in my way when I t...

A.   25 February 2009: Nice 2 know ther r girls who like gamers ! ^__^ But the problem with me is to take that 'First Step',the 'confrontation'! I'm a bit 2 shy!!!!! Regardin ma mommy, she dont want me sitting at ma pc playin CS:Source! She want me 2 go out ... (read in full...)

I lost the girl who was my reason to live. What do I do?

Q.   I'm a mess rightnow! I used 2 b the numero uno,in studies,sports etc and everyone loved me But everything went crashing down! I was totally down.I shut myself away from everyone.Lonely,withdrawing 2 myself. Then all of a sudden,i met a gi...

A.   28 October 2008: Problems problems! Ma dad gave me a sort of ultimatum that i must marry a girl before i turn 25(i'm 23 now!).He says he would 'expel' me from the family if i doesnt 'settle' myself! Im studyin CAD now,would take ~6 months 2 complete.I'm und... (read in full...)

Why is it that boys are obsessed with breasts?

Q.   Hey guys, I am 15 years old and am blessed with generous cups. My bf regards my breasts very sexy. Why is that boys are obssessed with breasts? My all bfs used to suck breasts more than to have sex. Personally,I like that but I dont understand ...

A.   22 October 2008: Affirmative! Men hav a 'taste' 4 breasts,dont know why! Wen i was in college,there was a 'chart'(top 10!) in our hostel where v would arrange girls names according 2 their 'size' ... (read in full...)

Are there any ways to distinguish whether or not he is attracted to me?

Q.   I have been enrolled in a French class for the past couple months. My professor can't be more than 6 years older than me, and I feel as if there's a connection between us but I'm unsure of how to approach it. Obviously he's not going to make the ...

A.   22 October 2008: iceordess,ur right,its been 'banned' Here,the college would fire both the teacher and student if somebody reports it to the college administrators! Better off with 'it' !... (read in full...)

Is there any way of telling when you are truly in love?

Q.   Hey This is just a quick question but it is one i have been wondering about for quite a while now. Is there anyway of telling when you are truly in love ? Thanks x...

A.   22 October 2008: Feels like u r a cloud,weigtless,drifting freely.... Always happy,always smiling like a small child.... U discovers the meaning of ur life,to live and die 4 her! From there,is no 'me',only 'us' ... (read in full...)

I lost the girl who was my reason to live. What do I do?

Q.   I'm a mess rightnow! I used 2 b the numero uno,in studies,sports etc and everyone loved me But everything went crashing down! I was totally down.I shut myself away from everyone.Lonely,withdrawing 2 myself. Then all of a sudden,i met a gi...

A.   21 October 2008: WOW! Thanx for those inspiring words,really pumped me up! yoU are sayin to 'channelize' the love to somethin 'creative'! Great! Like what Dante did on 'Divine Comedy' ! Let me see what i can do with my 'Beatris' (hope the spellin is correct!)... (read in full...)

I lost the girl who was my reason to live. What do I do?

Q.   I'm a mess rightnow! I used 2 b the numero uno,in studies,sports etc and everyone loved me But everything went crashing down! I was totally down.I shut myself away from everyone.Lonely,withdrawing 2 myself. Then all of a sudden,i met a gi...

A.   20 October 2008: Things r gettin normal! Seems like i'm copin with the loss(loss of ma heart!,oops) Thanx guys 4 ur support! Appreciate that! ... (read in full...)

Why does this make me feel 2 inches tall?

Q.   Hi, my name is Loriann and I can't get over my husband's ex girlfriends. They were all smart, beautiful, good at every thing and from what I've heard, great in bed. I don't know how to get over it, it just bugs me and makes me feel like I am 2 ...

A.   20 October 2008: Lorianne,you are smarter,prettier,and sexier than ur husband's 'exs'(after all,ur husband preferred u to b his girl),its that is that somethin is preventin u from believin it! Btw,u want ur husband's love 4ever?,treat him like a dog!(apa... (read in full...)

Why a play instead of out to dinner? Does he not want to talk face to face?

Q.   Hi this guy im interested in didnt want to go for dinner/ lunch with me but instead invited me to a play. I find it quite strange, does he find it uncomfortable to sit and talk with me face to face? do you think he's just being polite or he likes me ...

A.   19 October 2008: Yes,i think you are (tryin to)read too much! ... (read in full...)

I'm so lonely! How do I deal?

Q.   Hi,im in college and even though i go to a school of 14,000 people, I have never been so lonely in my life. I dont have any close friends here, just acquaintances and the people who I live with dont have anything in common with me and think i am a ...

A.   19 October 2008: I felt the same wen i joined college,lonely and lost! I had no good friends there @first,but after joinin the soccer team i began gettin a lot of friends! I was overwhelmed with love and support after i broke the leg ligaments and ho... (read in full...)

My husband's best friend who is also married wants to have sex with me, I refused yet he does not listen to me, what to do?

Q.   my husbands best friend wants to have sex with me.he is also happly married. his wife is my friend.i have already told him to control his emotions cause it will ruin our marrieges.but he is not ready to listen to me.what should i do?i dont want to ...

A.   18 October 2008: Yup, tell your husband about this! And how is this gonna hurt ouur husband? Are you crazy? For you it's your husband not his friend who's important (or is it?)!... (read in full...)

Young love! On and off around other people, what should I do?

Q.   Mkay, if this helps... I'm 14 years old, haha. Alright, so I have liked this girl for a little over a year and we so has she..... We've gotten pretty serious this month, and whenever I get a chance to talk to her, I do so. The main problem is ...

A.   18 October 2008: Disclaimer: I'm not an 'expert' nor I had great experience in this 'stuff' okay? I would've chosen plan C! So stop being a bitch and making her feel that she's just another girl for you! And make friendships with girls who are her friends! See... (read in full...)

Should I propose on her birthday? How to make it the night she will never forget?

Q.   I been thinking about proposing to my girlfriend of 7 years (haven't got the ring yet). Her birthday is coming up (she's turning 25) and do you think I should do it on her bday? How to make it the night she'll never forget? ...

A.   18 October 2008: @ anonymous WOW! How romantic! @ Shy Boy , Do what the 'anonymous' says! Make it big! It would 2 great if you arrange it with her family. I would've done it before everyone at her birthday party but that's not that romantic! By the way, can I ... (read in full...)

Do men really prefer the bodies of their girlfriends/wives over the perfect model type in most porn?

Q.   Do men really prefer the bodies of their girlfriends/wives over the model perfect type in most porn. I mean do they really prefer a mommy body with scars and sags (not overweight)as they say, over the scarless pre baby bodies on playboy and ...

A.   18 October 2008: +1 ! Totally agree with u guys Yeah,in the back of their minds,every men like those 'perfect' girls but they know its not 'real' ! And they r perfectly happy with their not so 'perfect' but 'real' partners,i feel !... (read in full...)

I lost the girl who was my reason to live. What do I do?

Q.   I'm a mess rightnow! I used 2 b the numero uno,in studies,sports etc and everyone loved me But everything went crashing down! I was totally down.I shut myself away from everyone.Lonely,withdrawing 2 myself. Then all of a sudden,i met a gi...

A.   18 October 2008: Thank u verymuch 'anonymous' ,really appreciate ur opinion! I get wat u r sayin But 4 somebody who didnt believed in himself..... losin someone who recognised him is really painfull! Btw,does i need 2 consult a psychiatrist? (I w... (read in full...)

I lost the girl who was my reason to live. What do I do?

Q.   I'm a mess rightnow! I used 2 b the numero uno,in studies,sports etc and everyone loved me But everything went crashing down! I was totally down.I shut myself away from everyone.Lonely,withdrawing 2 myself. Then all of a sudden,i met a gi...

A.   17 October 2008: I know the lyrics of the song "It Must've Been Love" by Roxette as i'm playin it 24hrs 2 make my mind say,ok,its over now! But i cant!!... (read in full...)

I lost the girl who was my reason to live. What do I do?

Q.   I'm a mess rightnow! I used 2 b the numero uno,in studies,sports etc and everyone loved me But everything went crashing down! I was totally down.I shut myself away from everyone.Lonely,withdrawing 2 myself. Then all of a sudden,i met a gi...

A.   17 October 2008: Thanx Q ! But i cant forget her rightnow!,i just cant! She was a perfect match for me! She had similar religious and political background(roman catholic,'conservative' right!),similar tastes....etc! Even our physical appearance was so st... (read in full...)

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