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writes:hi im kinda thinking about maybe accepting this proposal to be this guys full time sort of live in lover.He was the one who suggested it would make him a kinda suger daddy. He seems very nice (we have met on 3 occasions now and althogh i managed to be sick in his car on the first date he wasnt at all angry )at first he sorta looked old to me (im 19 , he he told me is still in his 40's) but he is super hot and not at all like whot my horid stepdad was like. When we met a few weeks ago he said he was just looking to find some happiness and have a stable relationship. He had a bad experience and he seemed so broken hearted. And he like totally understood my fealings towards my s/dad. He more listened to what i had to say , no one ever understands what it is like to be unhappy in your life but he did. All my worries seem to evaporate away when Im with him just chating about stuff, and that is what i want be happy. Is it best to just pack up and leave home,or leave note and go. Jackie
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2017): If you want to live with him and you trust him then thats ok.But make sure he makes it clear what he wants from you. If you are happy about the arrangements (ie the sex,also he should make it clear to you from the start regarding the amount of sex and the type of sex he requires from you.) That way you wont have any nasty surprises. Living away from home might even feel liberating and being in a loving relationship with someone you care for hopfully will turn you into a loving woman. If this move is to be a fresh start and a new home than you must be very careful to keep him happy and not forgeting to please him as much as you can and feel you are able to. If he treats you with kindness and love (paying for your upkeep ,food clothes, expensives etc then what he is looking to have from you companionship and sex will be both enjoyable not only to him but for you as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2017): Jackie
It sounds like you are at the age where you are still developing. Sex at such a young age can be very confusing. Perhaps you are looking for a replacement for your what sounds like a very horrid stepdad. Did he abusr you atall? I think he migt have by your letter. Not all men are like that trust me.If you feel comfortable with this man abd truely know him after some more time then it s your decision. Please make sure you are safwe though. Ie tell someone you know where you are. Also please please take precautions in the bedroom.And dont do anything that you are not comfortable with. As you are still at school I assume you are around 15 or 16, yes? If he is proposing to look after you and house you i expect he is also looking to groom you too. Maybe he has desigins on dressing you up to his tasts and pimping you out to make some money. You sound very young and I am sure you must have had a horrid time with your stepdad. If he is just a nice lonely guy he will treat you well. An age gap is not necessarily a nO no to a relationship, but remember he by the sound of it expects you to pay him back not in money, but lets face it by your body or more precisiy your pussy. You must always be in control baby, and if you do live with him try and be strong and dont let him always have his way with you. I hope he is a gentleman at heart and will always have your best interests at heart but I feel maybe he is looking further down your body
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2017): If you are unhappy at home bc of your stepdad then get a job so that you can support yourself financially and move out of your home and find a flat to share with a female flatmate. We can't tell if this older man is a decent fellow or a crook who can lead you to very bad ways but in general no relationship with such big age difference survive for long. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2017): It seems as though you are a wayward young girl on the streets looking for a safe place to land. You didn't just meet this guy by some coincidence; I think he's a john.
You will probably be his plaything for awhile. He will use you like any john uses a prostitute. It is a form of slavery. He feels he owns you; because he provides for you while you satisfy his needs. You are a troubled-teen from a dysfunctional-family; so you are perfect prey for a sexual-deviant or troll.
He tries to make you feel understood, and sells you his sad lonely story; like he's some poor sad guy looking for love.
Why is he searching for it on the streets and picking-up random young drunk or high teenage girls?
Men over 40 picking-up girls your age are usually pervs! Often they are pedophiles! You might be legal-aged, so you say anyway; but your appeal is that you may look even younger! I don't trust the age you've given; I will believe you are younger, for the sake of argument!
These scumbags are nasty disgusting creeps with handsome faces and slimy souls! He can't wait to get his paws on you! He'll be nice at first; then the hidden-degenerate will come-out; and you'll see his true colors!
He'll convince you how much your life-stories are alike; so he can take you home. He's older and clever. Once he has you, you're going to live and abide by his rules in his house.
Trust me on this, girlfriend! You will get tired of being around some old-man! He can't talk your talk, always correcting you, and treating you like a stupid kid! The age-difference doesn't matter to you. He's always aware of the advantage of his age!
A guy his age is calculating and devious; he knows he's got the upper-hand. When you get out-of-hand he will throw you out! But he'll make sure you're too broken and messed-up to be any good to yourself or anyone else. He will take back everything he has given you, and might even toss you out in the cold naked! Who are you going to tell? The police?
If you have a drug problem, you're going to lie and steal. He will beat and thrash you within an inch of your life! He feels he has the right; because you are his slave and his property. Thus, he can even pimp you out!
Being a teenager you'll want to have fun, run-around with people your age, play loud-music, party, spend through his money, and come and go as you please. No way, kiddo! He will be your step-dad on steroids! Remember, you're his property!
Sweetheart, it is not going to be the life you imagine. He is a pig. He is going to dictate your every move. How to dress, what to do, and what not to do. When I say slave, I mean you will lose your freedom and he will own your soul. He will treat you just like a pimp. He might even pass you around to his friends. He may even be a human-trafficker scouting the streets for girls like you.
He will fill you with drugs and alcohol. Not for fun, so you'll be unable to refuse anything he demands of you. To get you addicted; so he can own your soul, and you will need him to provide you with your fixes. He will withhold your drugs to make you suffer from withdrawal as punishment. He will demand your obedience.
If it sounds too good to be true? Honey, it's not true! Heed our warnings, or you will be sorry!
I feel kind of confident that you are not just jumping at this opportunity. You asked us before making a decision. You're a smart young lady! That's good! You're a little naive; because of your youth and inexperience, and you may be a little desperate and lonely.
Hesitation means you smell a rat; even though it sounds tempting. If you are a sex-worker at this time, you've developed some street-smarts. You know that johns want a girl on call, that he can own like a pet. They have to have a good game and sell you a great proposition to entice you. Offering you a lovely and scrumptious life. He found you on the street. You got sick in his car; which means you were either drunk and/or on drugs. You over-shared, so he knows you have problems at home. Your life is a mess.
He's going to treat you like some stray-animal he picked-up in an alley, once he's got you where he wants you.
You can ignore all this good advice if you like. I guarantee you'll regret it! The odds are 99% to 1% he won't be good to you. These odds are not in your favor! The 1% chance he'll live-up to his promises is far too small, my dear!
His good-looks are only another part of the devil's lure and enticement. The devil can be beautiful and sensuous. He's hiding his horns and tail; and you're nothing to him but a tender young piece of meat.
Too many young girls who are runaways or rebellious young teen-females find themselves the property of disgusting cruel men in the Middle East, India, or some drug-lord in Africa. No, you won't be lavished in jewels and pretty clothes. You'll be gang-rapped and tossed around like trash; then abandoned somewhere on a street addicted to heroin or some other drug. You might be street-smart; but sweetheart, you are too young to know the true evils of this world. You have the strength of a match-stick under the weight of a bus out in this world on your own.
Do not accept his offer! Find a shelter for teens! If you found us, you know how to search for help online; if you are abused, have been molested, or if you are presently homeless.
May God bless and protect you, sweetheart!
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (20 December 2017):
 Jackie, you live in Ireland - there are *SO* many opportunities there to become independent, not become a prostitute paid with shelter and food.Seriously, you poured your heart out to a stranger and he's found a way to lure you into being his live-in sex toy. Once you're there, then what? Cook for him? Be his maid? Will you work too? If not, how will you ever save up to have a life of your own?If you move in with him, he OWNS you. How will you escape if he turns out to be nasty, abusive or controlling? You've also barely dated or had sex, so how do you know he's not really unattractive to you under his clothes? Or enjoys a fetish you can't stand?Jackie, please don't make the biggest mistake of your life. If you move in with him, it may be nice at first, but you will be signing your life away. There are no rules or contracts in place to protect you or keep you safe. He could kick you out at any time or have sex with other naive young women, like yourself, and it'll be very difficult for you to leave.This is a VERY dangerous and horrible idea - why are you even considering this? Be independent, not a prostitute.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious + ♥, writes (20 December 2017):
 Jackie, sweetheart, please don't rush into anything.
What on earth is a "sort of live in lover"? Do you mean you will live in his home and let him have sex with you in exchange for your bed and board? That sounds like a great deal - for HIM, not for you.
You have met this man THREE times. You know only what he wants you to know about him. You don't even really know his age, only what he has told you. He sounds like a lech at best, possibly far worse. If you were MY daughter and I found out what he was proposing, I would probably get locked up for going round and kicking seven shades of the proverbial out of him. How do you know he will not traffic you for sex among his mates? If you disappear from home and go and live with him, without anyone knowing where you are, he can do ANYTHING he wants to you and nobody will know where you are. Do you not understand how dangerous this could potentially be for you?
You sound very vulnerable and as if you are gravitating towards the first person who has listened to you. I understand your relationship with your stepfather is not good. You are not the first, or the last, to not get on with a step parent, or even a parent. That does not mean you have to go to such extremes to "escape". Where is your mother in all this? You don't mention her. Are you angry at her for not seeing how unhappy you are? Do you have other family members you can speak to or even go and live with rather than having to escape from your unhappy family home by moving in with some random man who wants you as his "sort of live in lover"? What happens when he gets fed up of the novelty of the situation and decides he no longer needs your services? What happens if you are not well or not in the mood for sex? Will you feel obliged to put out because he is paying for you to do exactly that? Don't think he will be as understanding as he is pretending to be now once he is paying for your services.
If you are hell bent on doing this, then at least tell someone where you are going so that they can check up on you and make sure you are safe. If you can't tell a family member, then perhaps a friend? PLEASE don't just do this and not tell anyone as you really do not know what you are letting yourself in for. This man does not sound trustworthy otherwise he would not be proposing what he is to a young vulnerable girl.
The fact that you have asked the question on this forum tells me you have misgivings. Please trust your gut instinct. It is there to protect you.
Please stay safe.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (20 December 2017):
 Jackie, are you a prostitute? Or should I ask it like this, DO you want to be a prostitute?
Because that is what you are doing. The whole notion of a "sugar daddy" (gagging and choking here) is for an older guy to BUY a younger woman. To "rent" her - for sex and company. Which in term is (guess what?!) prostitution.
You have met him on 3 occasions but you don't really know this guy. Would you move in with a BF after 3 dates?
Is your goal in life to replace the "bad step-dad" with another adult to "take" care of you?
Are you not looking to be self-reliant? Independent?
I'm really wondering where you get the notion that this is a good idea on ANY level.
A man OLD enough to be your father is suggesting you move in as his live-in "lover" (aka sex pot NOT girlfriend), he says ALL the right things about understanding how horrible your step-dad is, then pours it on thick with the just looking for "happiness and have a stable relationship" (yet he offers you the "job" as lover, NOT girlfriend. And then a little thicker... "He had a bad experience and he seemed so broken hearted" oh boo hoo cry me a river... IS that a good reason for you to be his live-in "lover"?
That is NOT how life works. Unless.... we are talking prostitution.
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