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Am I wrong for checking his activity on Instagram? Is my not reaching out to him an overreaction?

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Question - (12 April 2018) 5 Answers - (Newest, 13 April 2018)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I have a question regarding this issue I have in my relationship.

My boyfriend follows hundreds of “Instagram models”, strippers, half naked ladies etc... and I’ve seen from his activity that he frequently likes their posts.

Two days ago, he liked a dozen of posts from a stripper (not the first time I’ve seen him do something similar) and this time it really bothered me.

The next morning, while taking over the phone, the subject came up and he got upset that I was seeing his activity and proceeded to block me on Instagram.

Sadly this isn’t the first time he has blocked me either. We have had arguments in the past thy resulted in him blocking me from social media, and unblocking me after. I haven’t tried to reach him since then, neither has he.

My said boyfriend is in his late 30s and I feel like he should not behave in certain ways.

So I want to know, 1. am I wrong for checking his activity on Instagram ( I don’t exclusively do it to track him)? 2. Am I over reacting by not wanting to reach out to him since he has blocked me?

I’m sorry if you’ve talked about this topic before because, I’m a new listener.

Thank you in advance.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (13 April 2018):

aunt honesty agony auntThis doesn't sound like a committed relationship to me. You don't treat someone like that in a relationship. If he is blocking you then it is quite clear that he does not care about you. Why would you allow a man to treat you like this?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2018):

Have you met each other or are you on line friends?

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A male reader, WiseOwlE United States + , writes (13 April 2018):

Are you sure he's your boyfriend?

If a guy blocks you from his social media so he can follow other women; doesn't that send-off bells and alarms?

Hell-oooo?!! Hell-no!

Why is he following strippers and hoochie-mamas on Instagram when he has a girlfriend?

I don't think this guy understand the concept of commitment. Nor do you, if you would keep a guy who disrespects you like that.

You shouldn't have to worry about strippers and models or having to check on his activities.

If you can't trust the guy; maybe it's because he's the wrong guy!

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (13 April 2018):

Honeypie agony auntYes, you are wrong for checking.

And here is why I say that.

YOU made the choice to date him even if he behaves inappropriate. You think HE should change because it bothers YOU - but he SURELY doesn't feel that way. HE basically doesn't CARE how it makes you feel.

So IF you want to keep dating a guy who DOES these things, then THAT is what you get.

YOU CAN NOT change him. Why?

Because he doesn't think he is doing ANYTHING wrong!

So instead of being all upsetty about him BLOCKING you... so you can't snoop on him... MAYBE you need to make the choice whether you want to date a man who acts this SLEAZY and NASTY or not.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2018):

No your not wrong. His behavior is shady you have every right to know what your boyfriend is doing. Him blocking you looks suspicious. Time to find someone e respects you not to do that

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