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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have been dating a guy who is mid 40's and single most of his life. He is good to me in lots of ways helping out at my place with maintenance jobs. In return I cook for him and buy his favourite wine etc and pay for take aways etc. I work 6 days a week and when I am free would love to go out for a meal of a drink with him but he prefers to stay in and get a take away or watch a film. He doesn't have a regular sex drive but is affectionate even though I would like sex at least once a week. For him it's just not important.I just wish there was more. Am I being selfish or expecting too much? He is reliable and hard working but I miss feeling special and miss the romance of going out. Are we just too different? I feel like the only time I can go out or have fun is with my female friends.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (2 February 2015):
 I agree, you are not a good match. Seems like he is looking for a "mom" not a partner. The way you CATER to him, makes me think he lived at home with his mom til late in life? So now he is looking for a replacement mom?
Have you ASKED him out on a date? I get that he RATHER stay in, but going out is something YOU like and shouldn't he want to OCCASIONALLY do things YOU like too?
Sorry, I'd look elsewhere for a partner. Someone whom I had more in common with.
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reader, SensitiveBloke +, writes (2 February 2015):
 It sounds like you are not well-suited to each other. There are plenty of people who would love going out with you and having fun, but he's not one of them.
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