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writes:Before me and my girlfriend got together, she had a "bestfriend" who is a male. While I was still courting her, she told me that although she and that guy were "bestfriends" both knew that they loved each other but just don't have the guts to go to the level of lovers since the guy is separated from his spouse. When she became my girlfriend, she claimed that she no longer loved her bestfriend the way she did and only loves him as a friend. I may be paranoid but I just can't buy her statement. So I asked her to completely lose her communications with the guy. To start with, I asked ger to delete the guys phone numbers. At first she was hesitant, because afterall, he was her friend. But when she realized that I got so pissed off with her refusal, she deleted the numbers. Am I right to get jealous with this guy? Am I just being paranoid?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (4 February 2009):
For her to tell you that she is in love with him and wants to have sex with him is enough to make anyone jealous.
I would have stopped dating her then and there.
BUT she is making effort, she is your girlfriend and she has cut contact with the guy she was in love with to try and make it work with you.
Give her a chance, give her trust and love, and don't pre-judge her or it will push her away. But tell her that if she decides she does want to be with someone else to just tell you and not to cheat. Then you can walk away with dignity as friends rather than a messy screaming breakup.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2009): I agree, I would be jealous too! That was a curious thing to tell you. Maybe she wanted you to feel a certain sense of jealousy. She set you up to be jealous!
The problem is they have been friends longer than you and she have been going out, so since they are only "friends," You can't really do anything about it. I would try to brush it off, and at least act as though it doesn't phase you. Don't play her little game!
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reader, MyDestiny +, writes (4 February 2009):
 yeah i understand... id be jelous too..because i have female friends im really close with and they have boyfriends but they still flirt with me...but they do it in a friendly way not like they're attracted
so yes you have your reasons to be jealous but you shouldn't make her not be able to see again, she wants you not him..you have nothing to be so jealous about they're just friends
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