A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My girlfreind split with me last year out of the blue. We were so in love with each other that when she left, both of us were heartbroke.We carried on texting each other for comfort. Then after a few months we started going out at nights just as friends. Since then one thing has lead to another and now we seeing each other again.My only concern is, when she left me, my heart was ripped out because I loved her so much. Now we back together I cant love her like I used to. Its not the same as it was. If she left now I wouldnt be as upset because she already done the worst to me she could.I want to feel how I used to for her but just cant!Is this just me protecting myself by not getting too emotional with her or, is this how it is when two people split and get back together?
View related questions:
get back together, my ex, text Reply to this Question |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (27 February 2009):
 Sometimes when you split and get back it is never quite the same because emotions are different as are circumstances if you feel to split again with her would not cause you to be upset i would say you are not in love with her now because being in love means you could not bear not to be with them and if your like well she could go and i would be ok then i feel maybe for you it isn't the same, or it could be you just dont want to get hurt again maybe you have a wall there now that no one gets by a certain part that way your safe, this happens all too often even with people who are married.
If you want to be with someone forever you will know in your heart that never lies!
Gina
A
male
reader, Ed1337 +, writes (27 February 2009):
 I think its more of a trust issue, she hurt you the first time round and broke the trust between both of you. Now your worried the same thing will happen again, so your finding hard to commit yourself fully, because deep down perhaps you don't trust her completely anymore.One of the reasons why I would never go back to my ex after she broke my heart, I could never trust her not to do it again.
...............................
A
male
reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (27 February 2009):
 she has unfortunately damaged you emotionally with respect to her and this particular relationship. is this relationship acctually worth opening up again for? what was her reason for destroying your love the first time around? in order to give more(accurate) advice it would be handy to know more about her and her reasons
to answer you question this is how a relationship is when the sense of trust and security is absent.
good luck
...............................
|
