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female
age
30-35,
*pendy
writes:What he said was nasty right? Or am I being too sensitive?So I was on the phone to my bf last night and we were talking about something he feels really strongly about and I made a rude comment about the place but it was a joke.He took it so serious and said he will get people to beat me up if I ever go there with him. He made it sound like he was just joking but I got upset and was shocked he said that to me so I told him I'm upset and said goodbye.He hasn't rang me at all all day I've rang him several times but he didn't answer. I texted him but he said he hasn't got minutes to call me but that doesn't explain why he's not answering my call does it? He's always had credit. He'd ring me all the time. But not today. He's online but aren't speaking to me.Am I been sensitive or what he did was just horrible? What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2014): You're both jerks...You knew it was important to him and you said something really hurtful ... but you think it is ok because it was a "joke".Well, guess what? He thought saying that was ok because it was also just a "joke".My opinion? It's NEVER ok to even joke about abusing someone. And while I will never say "you deserved it", you certainly did ask for a wrong turn when you dealt one. You need to apologize first, acknowledge how what you said was wrong, then say how his comment made you feel. Tell him that you don't want to ever have that sort of conversation again and you're sorry for the role you played in it. Then say something about how you don't think it's ok for abuse to ever be joked about. .... basically, don't try to blame it all on him, but DO bring it up, because you never know if this could be a red flag about deeper problems he has with respect to being abusive.
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