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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:hi everybodyi need help with understanding this situation. i took back my ex boyfriend bout 2 months ago after a two year break up. during the two year breakup, he would call and text me, trying to get in contact but i would ignore the call because i was still hurt and bitter from the last break up.what happened was i was a virgin and he was not but i made it clear i was not just gonna have sex with him like that and the wait was too much and he broke it off. this summer though, curiosity got the best of me and one time he called i decided to answer. basically he explain how sorry he was for how it ended and how he really missed me and all that.he stressed how immature he was back then and how much mature he is now and how since me, he has not been with anyone. i decided to forgive him and we began to talk again.during that two years we both were away in school. but now im finish and he has almost two more years left. i decided to give it another chance cuz i believe in second chances.i dont mind long distances at all but now i find he dnt talk to me has much and how conversations are short and dull.rite now the only way we communicate is by whats app, which is proving to be quite annoying between us yet not with my other contacts. he never shows any kind of affection like i miss you or call me any affection names like he used to when he was trying to get me back. i feel now that he got me back, all that affection just stop..i'm starting to get paranoid and im trying soo hard to trust him but there is always doubt. especially now because all teh affection cease as soon as he left. i of course tried to give affection but he made it out as a joke like to avoid it. when he does decide to talk, he's always always "busy" and the convo never go no where. i too was away at school so i know about stress and social of uni life but i mean i wud make time for my friends and family for some type of long convo. but the thing is wen i do ask whats he doing, more often friends are over more dan him doing work.so i see that as he makes time for his friends but not hardly for is gf dat he tried soo hard to get back.but the real problem is that yesterday, i decided to hit him up and he accidentally sends me a wrong message, mentioning that darsy, im not sure who dat is but i assume its a girl is over by him and she is wooping his ass. den he sends o crap wrong message box and dats was the end of the convo, offering no explanation and frankly i didnt bother try ask for one.now im contemplating on ending things cuz i cant imagine dealing with this affetcionless relationship for soo long. am i being too paranoid? i just dont understand how u can try soo hard to get somebody bck den take risks to loose them again...am i wrong to be suspicious? ive never told him all dat ive been feeling cuz i dnt wanna come off has a clingy gf and accuse him of something that i am possibly wrong about, but it is really bothering me. please help!!
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reader, cj2203  +, writes (23 September 2012):
You have a right to be suspicious i was going to go out with this guy hecalled me my reina princess and made me feel good i accidemntley look on his phone 5 messages to different girls.tha i love you my princess blah blah blah ask for ann explanation or find out who is darsy then zask him what happen
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