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female
age
36-40,
*arlys955
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and have lived together for 8 months. Recently, I've started to feel a bit paranoid that he might be cheating. I noticed he was getting emails from a swingers website about parties and confronted him about it. He does real estate on the side and said it was spam from all the ads he posts on Craigslist but this got my mind spinning. He works nights and I work days so we have a lot of time apart. The other day, I came home from work and his beard smelled faintly of aftershave (which he rarelt puts on). When I asked him about it he said he had put it on for work and the scent must be lingering. I didn't think much of it until last night- I had purchased some lingerie for valentines day and put it on for him- he went downstairs to freshen up and came back up smelling of aftershave. I asked if he had put it on to smell good for me and he said yes. So this makes me wonder- should I be concerned about him smelling of it last week? Could he have put it on to smell good for someone else? I have been cheated on in the past so definitely have some trust issues so I'm not sure if I'm letting past experience make me paranoid here. Please help!!
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reader, CMMP +, writes (15 February 2014):
I think you're being paranoid.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (14 February 2014):
 He works real-estate? So yes, HE would have to take good care of himself, look PUT together and yes, SMELL good. Who wants to buy a house from a unkept grubby looking and sweat smelling guy?
Have you even been to an open house (where they try and sell a house?) best tip is to have scented candles like chocolate cookies, apple pie lit - apparently a house that smells like fresh bakes goods sells faster. My assumption is that a realtor who looks well put together sells more then one who doesn't take care of him/herself.
Getting spam from CL is not uncommon from what I hear, BUT if he ONLY seems to get from swinger sites.. I would think there is more to it then it just being spam.
Are there any other reasons you have these doubts or feelings?
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