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anonymous
writes:My husband and I have been on a rocky road for quite some time now and we are currently in counseling. I lost trust in him a almost 2 years ago when he started texting girls. He stops texting one girl but then starts up with a new one. Right now he is not texting anyone however he goes to the gym and takes a bunch of classes. There is a girl there that takes the same classes. (She is married with children of her own.) They never texted each other or as far as i know see each other outside of the gym. Now over the last week or so they started texting each other and I have read most of the text on his phone. Simply what time do you want to go to the gym, what class do you want to take type of stuff. Last week I read the first one that has raised my red flag. "Hey any chance you want to go to breakfast" They had already gone to the gym early that morning. I am trying so hard to trust him. I stopped looking at his phone without his permission. So for him to show me I want to believe that it is nothing. Am I being naive? When I brought up my concern to him he flip and now tells me he won't talk to her ever again and will change gyms. I can't help but ask myself why is he being so defensive?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo the first responder, he is the one that asked her to breakfast. To the second responder,these girls are ones he has meet at work (new to the job) at the gym and a couple have been old girlfriends. Some of the text have not been strickly paltonic on their part but I wasn't reading the texts back then so I don't know if he was misleading or not. One of the girls actually kissed him at work one night at work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2011): Can you elaborate as to what you meant by 'he started texting girls'?What kind of girls? His friends? Girls he met on the inernet? What?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2011): Honey .. Relax ! I think you should trust him . Yes let him show you like he suggested and don't just settle for words . He has syncronize . Afterall give yourself credit ! .. She seems desperate by trying to ask him for breakfast she is initiating ... Not him be happy ! Men chase woman ... Not too beautiful if you say woman chase men ! LoL b happy pick up your own interest and make yourself the prize !
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