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writes:I have just broken up with my boyfriend. I love him more than anything and i have known him for over a year, but seeing as we used to live together and work together, we saw each other 24/7. I feel as though he is part of me and i am nothing without him.Looking around my room, everything reminds me of him and i can't stop thinking about him. Half of me is expecting him to still walk through the door and tell me that he loves me when i know damn well that it is over and that i may never see him again because if i do, i dont think i would be able to handle it.I dont know what to do without him and i feel as though my life is not worth living anymore. I feel as though i can never get over him as everyone i talk to and everywhere i go brings it all back.I am un-employed and i know no one where i live at the moment. I recently lost my job and im having trouble finding another one. I feel so miserable and i feel like im a faliure.I cant stop thinking suicidal thoughts and im worried i might hurt myself.I dont know if i can ever get over him. Please help. I just need to hear that there is someone who can understand how im feeling. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2008): Count how many people smile at you in a day. It helped me get over my ex. And made me feel better about my self because sometimes i feel like i hate me coz im differant
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (18 January 2008):
 I can understand your situation. I've been there to the point of thinking suicidal thoughts once... However, this is NOT the answer. I assume this happened fairly recently judging by what you say in your post?
I'm afraid those dreaded words of it takes time have to come out... It really does just take time. I HATED it when people told me that but 2 months down the line it's true.
I remember when I split up with my first girlfriend who I was with for 5-6 years and lived with for 3-4 of those, I used to see OUR sofa, OUR bed, OUR TV. After it ended all a saw was A sofa, A bed, A TV. Everything reminded me of her and us.
After the end of my most recent relationship 2 months ago I sought out some counselling, which I had never done before as I thought counselling was for crazy people. I have to say it really did help and I can't recommend it enough... You can talk to this person about anything and everything and it's great for letting your feelings out which you sometimes don't want to show your friends/family.
You need to concentrate on YOU and pamper yourself. Show YOURSELF you're WORTH IT.
Shameless self promotion I know but take a look at my article on here:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-over-your-ex.html
Chin UP and best of luck. Feel free to mail me if you want :)
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