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writes: My ex and i broke up about 5 months ago. Although we broke up were still having sex. I feel used but i dont really mind it because he is great in bed. Is it slutty of me to think that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2009): If you're still having sex then he ain't your ex.
Continuing an intimate relationship with him is more than friendship, and it means that you are emotionally and physically unavailable for a new partner.
Apart from the fact the sex is great, it's so much easier than starting a new relationship, in the same way that an old pair of shoes are so much easier to put on than when you buy new ones and have to put plasters on your heels.
So part of it perhaps is that you fear the prospect of having no relationship, or the vulnerability of venturing into a new one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2009): I don't think your actions make you a slut. But then other people's opinions shouldn't matter.
But do YOU think you are? You are on here asking this question for a reason. Something about the situation is bothering you. You say you feel used. But then, you don't mind because the sex is good. There is a disagreement between how you physically feel, and how you feel inside.
Your body is saying, "Wow! Hey, I really like this, it feels good!" Your emotions are saying, "I feel bad about this...I don't like it..." It's like a struggle.
Only you can decide whether to continue having sex with your ex or not. Nobody else can judge you. The only person who's judgement and opinion counts is yours. If you are truly fine as you are, then there is no problem (although you are very young).
But if you are not happy, then you need to think about whether it is worth continuing at the risk of your self-esteem, and your opinion of yourself.
Hope this has helped. x
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reader, guywithlove  +, writes (16 July 2009):
lol...to be honest i would say yes..yes u are acting like one right now....coz u know u wont be with this guy..he does not love u..he is here just for your body and not your heart and love...so i guess you wanna save all this for someone who really deserves this....did i say something meaningful here?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2009): Sex with the same guy is hardly what you would class as slutty. You are both consenting and there for that reason so you are using each other equaly. One thing is for sure,you are underage and that would be the first thing noticed.
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reader, love-struckxo  +, writes (16 July 2009):
 Do you think you are being a slut? Nobody can define you as one. If you think you are acting like one - then you probably are, but if you agree with what you are doing, then who's to stop you?
But eventually, you are going to have to ask yourself: Where is this truly getting you? Are you guys going to end up back together one day? Are there feelings involved with the sex?
I suggest you take a step back and analyze this, because if you still love him then you are going to end up seriously hurt. Eventually you are going to have to move on from this boy, and in the process your FWB relationship will not help you any way in the long run.
Think about the future...
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reader, Traviesa_7768 +, writes (16 July 2009):
 WOW thats the same problem that i have with my ex...we broke up a year ago but we still continued to talk and then last month i lost my virginity to him and well we still continnue to have sexand i also feel like a slut at timesi am no one to judge you and say yeas you are a slut or no you are notyou are the only one who can decide that because only you know how you feel about this deep insideso just think about it for a while.and also ask him how he feels that you two are still having sex even though you guys broke upbut besides that be careful and always use protection.i wish you the best and hope that this helped in a way =)
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