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*awrcakes2012
writes:Ok well i am 14 years old and my bf is 16. we have been dating for 8 months. All we have done is kissing and making out. We want to go further. What is the best way to get in the mood. If he fingers me will it hurt? When we have sex will it hurt a lot? I am a little nervous but i think i am ready. Any advice would be great!
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (28 February 2009):
 I think you're too young, but here's the scoop:
Fingering might be a little uncomfortable and tight feeling, but it shouldn't hurt. If it does he is going too hard so make him stop! If you're still a virgin and he gets a little aggressive down there, he could tear your hymen either a little bit or all the way. My advice is to have a towel around to lie on. He needs to start out slow, like one finger, and probably no more than two.
For sex, it really depends on how aroused and stimulated he gets you and how gentle he is with you. It would be best that he uses lube as well.
My first time was completely painless, but I bled a lot, go figure. My friend's first time left her sore for days, and the next several times she had sex it was the same thing. It is just different for every girl.
I think you should wait. 2 years may not seem like a lot, but in teenage time, he is quite a bit older than you. I honestly don't think it is very appropriate he wants to be doing these things with someone 2 years younger than him.
Whatever you do, have him wear a condom and use water based lubricant like astroglide or KY. Make sure his hands and nails are CLEAN and that his nails are trimmed and he doesn't have hangnails, those hurt.
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reader, andrew loves hali +, writes (28 February 2009):
 i think you should wait till your a lil older
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reader, iSmil3y +, writes (28 February 2009):
Well, whether someone tells you to do it or not, You're going to end up doing what you want to in the end. So you're asking, if it'll hurt when he fingers you and the answer is, yes. If you've never been fingered before then it will hurt until you actually get used to it. And I'm a virgin but, I have friends who aren't virgins and I've also looked up on the web and my friends and different websites, all say, it will hurt the first time and maybe even the second and third time. Hope I helped:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2009): Girl, in my opinion.. You should wait. You have your whole life ahead of you. I am nineteen years old. I had a baby this January. Things aren't really doing so hot--Her mother is manipulating her and she got sent to Seattle (area). We hardly talk, things are really hard. Its hard on me. I can only imagine its also hard on her.. idk I don't really get it, but she won't stand up for herself. Anyway. You're young, stay young while you can, you have your whole life to grow up.
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