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writes: I'm a girl, who i feel, is intellegent and has a great personality the problem is a men (and sometimes girls) don't seem to be able to get past the size of my chest. I am a natural FF cup and it really gets me down people automatically assume i'm a thick zero-personality bimbo. no man ever wants a serious realtionship with me seeing me as just a bit of fun and a lot of women are reluctant to make friends with perferring to bitch about me by making comments like 'they must be false'. Has anyone got any advice on how to prove to these peoplethat i am intellegent and full of personality?
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reader, Jimmy11  +, writes (9 February 2009):
Many girls want to be very big. They are spending thousands and enduring pain to get big. Their attracting power is undeniable. So the men get attracted to you. That is not all bad. Perhaps if you just talked directly about you FF's and get that out of the way. Warn them in a joking way. They will never be satisfied with normal girls after you. Above all do not get irritated with having your beauty. You might find a very rich nice man with them. After you get married you can get a reduction operation. Tell the guys you plan to get a reduction some day after your done having fun with them. That should kick off a conversation and totally obsess them for a while. Then the conversation can move on to other subjects. For sure, keep your weight down. They will just get bigger if you gain weight. I am somewhat of a breast fanatic myself, but I get tired with them quickly. They are much more interesting at a distance than in person. It is some kind of fantasy. For you, there is a time to get them out for play. You will be surprise how quickly they loose interest. After all, they are for feeding babies. I work at a bank and two of the tellers have gotten breast implants. All the men, and some women, go to their station if there is a choice. It is so obvious to everyone working there. These girls are having fun. This culture is just strange.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2006): Dont worry about it. Just be yourself and send me a pic lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2006): I feel for you. It is unfortunate that other people's insecurities about themselves interfer with them knowing how to be a true, sincere friend to you.
I hope that you yourself are happy with yourself and your body.
I think that special someone is out there and won't treat you like a piece of flesh; it just takes time.
So long as they don't effect your health; just leave them alone. Surgery for a breast reduction can be of help if this becomes an overbearing concern.
I agree that some clothing may be of some help.
I don't understand the need to prove they are wrong; they need to behave themselves and govern themselves in a respectful and considerate manner.
It is the fault of others and their own prejudices and therefore they need to take the responsibility of changing their attitudes and perspective...you are in fact a person with intelligence, personality, and feelings.
A diploma or self business can be of assistance and results from such a course can be immediate or take some time depending.
It is disheartening but I have much faith in the human spirit and you must have some genuine friends that you can turn to for aid.
Best of luck.
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reader, Tine  +, writes (11 August 2006):
 you know what i am in exactly the same boat as you, dont you just wish that sometimes they would disappear so that people can find out about the real you. Lately i have been trying everything in the book but what i find mostly works is by not showing the slightest bit of cleavage by just wearing a normal tops and jumpers and wearing something that catches the eye on the bottom half of your body. Any man who looks at your chest when he is talking to you is just a waste of time, but i would make a point to them in saying exactly that you'd liked to be looked in the face when you are having a conversation that way they will notice that you do infact have feelings, some men think that women find it really flattering by talking to their chest and i think that its about time that we proved them wrong.
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (11 August 2006):
 Hey,
why don't you show people that you're not stupid by doing something only really clever people can do, like getting a university degree if you havent already got one or becoming something really sucessfull like a buissness woman?
I know this isn't the best advice in the world but if you show people you can do something like that (maybe even run your own buisness) then the'll see past your body. There is a perfect guy out there for everyone. It's just the waiting for him to come along that all us girls hate!
Hope this helped and if you need anything just drop me an e-mail,
Phoebe
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (11 August 2006):
 Not everyone will react badly just because of your bra cup size...sounds like you have just had an unlucky run of things as far as people are concerned. First of all you should feel proud of your body - some women do go under the knife to get a larger set of breasts after all! Also remember that there is a lot you can do personally to distract attention away from your chest. Dressing in certain clothes will either hide them a bit, or put them on show...in an ideal world you shouldn't have to hide them away but if it causes you problems in your personal life then that could be one solution. A good fitting bra so they are not bouncing around is good too - not just for cosmetics but for the health of your back. Lots of women wear the wrong size bra - you should get a fitting from a bra shop so you get support. Lastly you have to accept yourself the way you are - if you know men are into you because of your breasts then avoid that type of man...they are surely easy to spot as they will be having a conversation with your breasts and not your face! As for women, just remember that if they were not jealous you wouldn't be so much of a threat that they would feel the need to bitch about you! And if they weren't bitching about your chest, it would be something else about you...or someone else...so try not to take it to heart.
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