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writes:About a month ago, I met a friend of my friend's while we were all on a night out (Let's call him Dave). According to my friend's boyfriend (Mark), when we (me, my friend and Mark) walked into the bar and joined their group, Dave pulled Mark aside and asked him "Who's she? Is she single?" pointing to me. Later on in the night, my friend told me that Dave had been hinting that he wanted to kiss me all night, so me being me, I asked him if he wanted to accompany me to the smoking area and we ended up kissing the face off each other up there and he asked me to come back to his.Turned out we were all staying in his house anyway (few of the friends live together) so we went back and had a bit of a party together before me and Dave went into his room and fooled around. We didn't have sex because I was on my period but we did other stuff and the next morning I woke up beside him and he didn't even acknowledge I was there. It was really awkward all morning and he was avoiding eye contact with me and stuff but I was really hungover so I just let it go.I added him on facebook and sent him a message saying thanks for letting me stay in your room and have a good week and gave him my number if he wanted to hang out and stuff and he wrote back and said thanks and no worries etc etc. We chatted twice on fb since then and the second time, we were talking about that night we were together and it was fun etc etc despite the fact that I thought he didn't remember anything. He asked if anything might happen again and I said I'm sure it would and that was it. I went out again to where my friends live at the weekend and when I was on the train, he texted me asking if I was on my way and what were my plans for the night and we had a bit of a text conversation where it was inferred that he had a free house and I could stay there if I wanted to.We went out anyway and I met him in the club and he gave my friend a big hug and gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek. He was a bit distant all night and only came up to me at the end of the night when we were going back to his house for a party. We held hands in the taxi and when we got back to his house, his friends were paying the taxi and he pulled me inside the door and kissed me and said "Go upstairs, I'll meet you up there in ten minutes". Being drunk, I ignored him and started fecking about the house, put on some music and we had a few drinks before he went upstairs and I followed him to ask him a question (honest to god) and we ended up sleeping together (but I ended up giving him head to finish him off). He wouldn't even kiss me afterwards and ignored me for the rest of the night. He went to bed not long afterwards and I had to sleep on the couch. I texted him when I got home on Sunday night and said "Thanks for the other night, was a good laugh." and he just wrote back "yea yea cool cool". Can SOMEONE please tell me what the hell this guy wants? He tells my friend when I walked into the room "Who's that? Is she single?" and asks his friend to set us up blah blah blah. Then the next time I see him, he's a total weirdo and then he's all over me and then he won't go near me after we've slept together?I don't want anything romantic to happen with this guy and tbh I would actually like to just have him as a f.buddy but he's being a total weirdo now. It wasn't anything to do with me in the sack, because he came so loud his friends downstairs heard us (so embarrassing) so I didn't do anything wrong there. Men, can you help me or women in a similar situation, what do you think is going on? I don't want to text him flirting or whatever if he's just hit it and ditched it or whatever the phrase is.
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reader, Who  +, writes (24 December 2010):
 "Can SOMEONE please tell me what the hell this guy wants?"
He wants sex.
And that's it. No friendship, no relationship, no respect, just sex. He is willing to put in the minimum amount of chatting and treating you like a fellow human being to get sex, but after that he cares nothing for you. Until he is horny again.
If you know what a blow up doll is, that is what this guy thinks of you.
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reader, JustAGirl.x  +, writes (24 December 2010):
 he just wanted sex, thats all.
he used you, just like lots of people use people on a night out!
if he wanted something more serious he would be in touch.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2010): The most important thing is your feelings for him. What do you feel for him? Do you want to be his girlfirend and possibly turn it to love?
Do you think he is in the same frame of mind? From what you've explained, it doesn't look like he is in the same frame of mind. Break ups are difficult. So I suggest that you hang out a little more to understand what he wants. If its only sex that he wants and you are willing to sleep with him until you get a real relationship make it clear to him.
Totally ignoring you just unacceptable. Ask him what he wants. He might not tell you straight forward. But you can get hints if you analyze his words and the intent behind them. Good luck!
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