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writes:Hi All;It's not a dangerous problem like many i read here but it bothers me and it's affecting my life.Got a divorce about a year ago (it was a relief and i had been the one striving for it for years)but since then i feel i've lost my will power. I am gaining weight by the day and can't bring myself to diet or excercise like i used to, i smoke too much and can't seem to quit, i work freelance and barely meet my deadlines. I've gone from the perfect housewife to a slob around the house. All i want to do is curl up and sleep or watch tv although i have 2 beautiful girls and a new wonderful man. Is this temporary? Has it got somthg to do with getting older?Please help me pull my act together
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2007): You are suffering from a mild to severe depression, this is not something that you can will yourself out of. With all the stressors in your life, you have been overwhelmed with sadness and anger is at there to and has not been dealt with.
My suggestion is the same as the others, get medical treatment at once, antidepressants have little or no sexual or other side effects, you may have to try a couple before you see which works best for you, but when you do, you will ask yourself why you waited so long to go.
Also, talk therapy would be most beneficial to help you process your anger and grief over your divorce. Your kids need you to love yourself so you have something to give them, if you won't do it for you, do it for them.
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (4 June 2007):
 have to second eyeswideopen on this one, been through similar myself recently and i was feeling the same same as you are now, i am currently on anti depressants and feel so much better my life now has meaning and i now do more exercise than i have ever done in my life and have lost a healthy two stone so my self esteem has been boosted as well. Go and visit your gp and you will get there too.
Good luck.xx.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (4 June 2007):
 I'd first visit my doctor, you sound like you have symptoms of depression. He/she may be able to help you with a referral for counseling or medication. I think once you are feeling better about things your will power and motivation will return. You need to take better care of yourself for the sake of your children as well as yourself. Good luck Sweetie, get the help.
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