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writes:In my life so far I have tackled being bullied when I was young and growing up for being overweight suffered with really bad acne and I got teased for being ginger.my dad left at a young age and hes not been bothered since. Ive got a daughter whos 6 who I have brought up really well on my own. Ive lost 6 stone in weight but now I have a saggy tummy so im not confident with my body so this affects me when im intimate with a man cos I think he will be disgusted, ive never got naked in front of a man standing up lying down I can just about do it! I had my boobs uplifted because they were like granny boobs, They look great but I still lack confidence. I then met a man who for 3 yrs mentally abused me to the point I had a breakdown and went to councilling. He bullied me and cheated on me lots of times, but I took him back cos I thought I couldnt do better! So thats taken me a while to pull through that. Then I met a man who also had a child and I thought I cracked it aand found the one then after a yr he doesnt want anymore children or get married when they are the things I dream about. So ive ended it as I cant waste anymore time. Even though we had such a laugh so much in common! But then 2 wks after we ended hes dating someone else! So that hurts after I wanted things with this man but he clearly didnt after saying how much he loved me and couldnt imagine being with anyone else. Its 3 months since it ended and I still feel down and very lonely. Whens it gonna be my time to be happy and life give me a break? Good things are I have a great family and so close with my mum, it breaks her heart to see me like this! My daughter is wonderful and everyone says shes a credit to me! Thing is im now blonde, very slim size 8.i get alot of attention from men but I dont seem to meet anyone, as the last two I met were online dating and im not doimg that again. I just dont have any faith in myself or meeting anyone who im gonna be with! My friends say im stunning and bubbly but inside im a wreck! I get through that door and I feel so lonely and the only person in the world please help me feel better. Whens it gonna be my turn.X
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (30 October 2011):
 I think it's time you took a second trip to the therapist. You need to talk these things through before you start to feel even worse. I don't know how to correctly translate this saying, but in Norway we say "det er i motbakke det går oppover", which means "it's when climbing uphills that you move upwards". Alternate saying: when you're at the bottom it can only go one way.
Talk to a therapist again, talk things through. You'll pull through this, but things are hard right now, and you need someone to support you, be that a friend or a therapist. The great thing about therapists is that they want you to spill your gut and lay it all on the table, and they can handle hearing it. Talking about things is often what is needed to lift it off your shoulders. Talking helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2011): I may not know much seeing that I am still a teenager and not out in the big world yet but I do have to say that there's a simple solution to this if you follow this one rule it may help. See noone can make you happy, only you can. Get involved, make as many friends as possible and don't be afraid to be yourself. You are what you think you are so make your choice. You can think you are gorgeous or not at all, it's all up to you. Goodluck, take care.
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