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26-29,
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writes:I've liked a guy for almost six years now, and back when I first started liking him he was a total stranger. But I've always been able to "sense" who people really were when I first saw them, not based on appearance but instead on aura, and I felt strongly that his aura was purer than any I've ever felt before, and blended in with mine like we were made for each other.Over the years, I have gotten to know him and discovered that we actually are the male and female version of each other- despite that we were both non-mainstream people. Only difference was that I was an outcast, while he was welcome everywhere (I'm a rather guy-ish girl, and highschoolers don't really like that).Now we no longer have school binding us and giving me a chance to hang out around him. We kept contact for awhile, through Whatsapp, which I actually disproved of but only got because it was the only eay I could talk to him. Recently, though, he has been telling me that he doesn't like Whatsapp and prefers hanging out with people in person. Perfect! Only, he rejects invites with "I'm busy". I haven't seen him in months. Now with the usual message that he doesn't like talking, he mentioned that he goes partying or clubbing with other people when he wants to socialize. I have a nervous disorder which makes me unable to be in these circumstances without collapsing on the floor in a total breakdoen. And he knows this.Looking back, I realized that he often acted as if it's the first time he associates me with some things he always knew was my kind of thing (in short, he'd say "I see you're pretty good in drawing" over a message, but he and I used to exchange art and cartoons at schook).Basically, hhe's been treating me like a total stranger. And he's stopped messaging me totally.Has he forgotten me? Did he make himelf forget me? It feels like he got amnesia and was fed other people's point of views (nobody else knew how well we got along, it was a bit of a secret) and no longer remembers any time he spent with me. I know this sounds like a far-fetched idea, but it hurts less than thinking that he doesn't even know who I am anymore, after I've spent years learning everything there is to know about him. Why do you think he acts like he doesn't know me?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (11 December 2015):
 Some men don't think about the little details like oh she is good at art, or she doesn't like socializing so they will say things without realizing it. Don't worry about it to much am pretty sure he has not forgotten who you are, its more that he just doesn't think about the past like you do.
I feel that you would benefit from getting help with what sounds like anxiety. Have you ever been to get help over your socializing issues? I think it is important that you look in to this and look in to doing these repairs to your personal life to begin with.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (7 December 2015):
 Sometimes people steer away from friendships they feel might become too heavy. The connection you consider exists might be more than this young man wants at the moment.
Don't make this attachment so important. You are young enough to be carefree if you want to be. What you feel for him is only what YOU feel. Don't transfer your feelings to him. It sounds as if he is having a good time with other friends. Get on with enjoying your life, and if you are meant to meet up down the road you will.
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