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writes:When I was younger, I was a severely jealous person. To the point where it hindered many of my friendships and relationships. I worked on my confidence and my insecurities, and really changed my life around. I learned not to compare myself to others and to be outgoing and feel fulfilled. But lately, I'm noticing that I'm heading back into a negative direction. It all started when I introduced two of my friends, and they really hit it off. One is a neighbor, and to be honest has not always been my favorite person. She's one that always talks about herself and does things that I just don't find appealing at this point in my life. In the past four or five months they have hung out so many times without me, even right next door without inviting me. I always take the consideration to bring people into an event, and I'm feeling really left out and have feelings of jealousy again. The other used to be one of my best friends, and looking through messages I realized today that she has not reached out to me to initiate conversation since October of last year!! I told her that I felt left out, yet nothing has changed. Does anybody have some advice to make this bad feeling go away? I feel like I barely have any true girlfriends anymore, and that these two are reaching out to everyone else we know, that I introduced them to, and never inviting me. Please help me find a way to not let this bring me down so much. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2016): My heart goes out to you because neighbour problems can be so difficult to get away from.And you do end up feeling bad in your own home.So you must harden your heart a bit and say to yourself that these two are not really good friends of yours and you will not invite them back into your home and private life because they have not proved to you that they are worth allowing them into your home and sanctuary.Who knows, they might be bound by a love of alcohol?Or perhaps they are having a secret fling together?If it was not your intention to get your fingers sticky with their affections I think you should just dismiss them and be thankful that you had early signs that they are not your calibre of friend and politely drop them off and reclaim your space.If they have cold shouldrered you for some time you dont need to say the obvious but dont relent and answer the door to them when they run out of milk etc.After getting that staight in your head just get on with doing things youd like to be doing without them.It doesnt have to be company based activity but if you do meet new people dont introduce them to these two because they will only gossip about you.No friendship second chances for them.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 February 2016):
 If you feel like you are a negative person well then maybe this is showing when people are in the same company as you, and if it is it might stop people from asking you to these events.
Okay lets start with your neighbour, you say you don't really like her, so well there is no problem here, don't force yourself to like her, just accept that she is not the sort of person you want in your life.
As for your best friend. Well she hasn't made an effort since last year, you have told her how you have felt and she still hasn't changed. However are you making an effort as well with her? Invite her for dinner, drinks, a good catch up and tell her you miss her.
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