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writes:I've been talking to this woman, I met on POF, over two years ago, we have only met, once, over coffee,not long ago, she told me, a guy from down south, moved in with her last year, he sold his house, left his job,but now she realized, it just won't work, she has ask him to move out, she is very well off, I've told her, am a pay check, to pay check, kind of guy, she says that's OK, we tex every week, an talk , just a little bit on the phone, am I being played like a sucker, she doesn't, want to go to the next level, till after he moves out, she feels sorry for him , I think, she is sixty three, am sixty, what I make in a year she makes, more in retirement, I told her she is way above my league, she thinks that is silly, am not a suit an tie, kind of guy, I wear a cowboy hat an boots, so am I being played, for just, to make her feel good, she seems to be the real deal, but am always wrong, the ones that I feel , like we have a connection, is the ones, I hurt my self over, they don't break my heart, I break my own heart
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reader, Kate1967  +, writes (16 March 2016):
You deserve better.
If she were not stringing you along, you would have been with her long before now.
She has issues.
Run. Be happy.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 February 2016):
 " They don't break my heart, I break my own heart " : I think you are right.
She is not playing you- you are playing yourself.
She TOLD you : she's got baggage. She has a live-in bf, and yeah maybe she's just keeping him around out of pity,maybe she has no heart to hurt him, maybe by now they are living together as brother and sister and blah blah blah : the fact remains that, until she is still living with this guy , she is not officially single, she is not FREE. She's got heavy baggage . Now she did not hide the existence of this man, she told you , - up to you to draw your conclusions. Up to you to decide whether you want to embark in a romance with a woman who has not got herself ridden of previous obligations. You decided yes, - you made your own bed, and now you find uncomfortable to lie in it.
As for your difference of income , no, I don't think that's the cause of the problem. It's not as if you were a bum, that she would have to be ashamed of you to people, and to keep you at arm's length. You have a job, and an income, you only earn less than her. And if she is well off, not necessarily she will want someone as well of as herself. In fact, if she is well off, that means that she does NOT have to resort to a wealthy man for financial help, status, prestige or stability- she's got all that stuff already, she can AFFORD to date someone less affluent.
I think that , in fact, makes sense for her not wanting to take things " to the next level " ( whether this means sex, or dating exclusively etc. ), it's simpler and more honest if she does not try to start anything serious before getting rid of the current partner. It does not make much sense FOR YOU to take up with a woman who has this kind of baggage.... if you want someone who is free to be all yours and to start a serious r/ship in the here and now.
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