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writes:HiOver the past few weeks our neighbour has been putting on a show in their bed room. What I mean by this is, she get undressed and gets changed without drawing the blinds. My wife and I can see all this from our lounge room if we have our blinds open. My wife and I are not offended by it but when we have people here we have been closing our blinds.Do you think I should tell her about what we can see?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008): I would ask her where she got the sexy undergarments , she looks sexy in both lacy black and lacy red. Mind you I am single and a red blooded american male , but that would make her aware of who is looking .
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reader, happytochat +, writes (30 November 2007):
Like many other people have said, get your wife to talk to her. Because if you do that would be more awkward because your a male and may come across as a pervert. Oh and like someone else also said, I wouldnt mention having seen her do it many times, just say something like the other day i noticed you forgot to shut your curtains while geting changed.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (30 November 2007):
 Give me the address. I'll monitor the situation.......Just kidding, I wouldn't say anything. You're not really worried about visitors to your house either. I think you just feel like saying something to her. Sometimes we have this inclination to let someone know they are not getting away with something. Does it REALLY bother you that much? It would only be an issue at night time and how often do you have visitors sitting in a spot that they can actually see her?
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (30 November 2007):
If it really makes you uncomfortable,get your wife to speak to her but don't make it look as though you've been having a show of it.If she continues with such behaviour,use your blinds and if that's not good enough you can report her to the police for indecent behaviour,even if she's in her own home.Just do what you have to,to mae her stop.I would also be concerned if i were you.
Take care.
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reader, Absolutioness  +, writes (30 November 2007):
 Yes, ask your wife to go to talk to her & let her know if she isn't aware. But maybe she is doing it on purpose, there are many desperate people out there & maybe she's got an eye laid on one of you, if not both... And if she is doing it on purpose - I'd contact police. I don't know what your lifestyle is, but seeing that you're asking for an advice on this manner I'm assuming that you & your wife are not enjoying all this. If one of my neighbors were to start flashing in their window & me & my boyfriend saw it, trust me, I wouldn't be sitting and watching I sure would talk to her 1st & if it wouldn't stop I'd contact *higher power*.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2007): Let her know, but carefully, maybe by your wife. Dont make a big thing about it, cos i bet she doesnt know anyone can see her. Dont say that you have been watching for ages, just say that you just notice last night and dont want her to feel embarassed.
take care
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (30 November 2007):
 In different manners, I'm with birdynumnums, jm81690 and SamuraiRick. If anyone is to talk to the neighbor, then ask your wife to do it: you could be call a pervert. And then, if she continues with the show, then do as SamuraiRick says: you have the blinds.
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reader, jm81690 +, writes (30 November 2007):
 I think if you tell your female neighbor you and your wife have been seeing her undress without saying anything for a while now she'll call you a pervert.
Just leave it alone, she's not hurting anyone, and it will save you from one hell of an akward conversation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2007): Yeah I would be so embarrassed if I had friends over and my neighbor was always getting undressed. So yeah definitely talk to her. But just say that your son told you about it and you don't want him to be able to see that anymore. But be sweet and polite about it. Hopefully she will be cool about it.
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reader, SamuraiRick +, writes (30 November 2007):
 So where is the problem here? Your neighbor is an amateur stripper and gives free shows... You're not offended, and you have blinds when you need them. Am I missing something here? What is the problem? Is your neighbor not hot enough?
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (30 November 2007):
 Get your wife to talk to her. She may well not be aware that you can see her. If the floor show contiues afterwards, she is an exhibitionist and is doing is for her own tittilation (excuse the pun). You can choose to involve the police (if there are small children in your household), or continue drawing the blinds.
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reader, bigbenlondon  +, writes (30 November 2007):
 I think you should tell her yes! She might not be aware that anyone can see. If you can't tell her to her face you can always write a note for her.
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