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writes:hello everyone, please i need your help !!well i want to know if i Can You Fix a Long Distance Relationship Breakup??and another question my boyfriend broke up with me .. and he said he still loves me .. but when i told him why not being in a relationship again he didnt reply .. and when i started to show him how happy i am with my life and i started to add friends he didnt like it and messaged me saying that he thinks i'm coping without him.. i don't understand he knows that i love him .. and i gave him a 2nd chance but he ignored me ..as i said before it's a a Long Distance Relationship.. so i was reading about how to get an ex back and found out that i shud not contact him .. but facebook , msn are the only ways to talk to him so i'm really confused please tell me what to do and what to say when asks me if i'm coping without me and if i'm moving on ?? i love him and i want him back ..
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2011): Hello there,
I was in a LDR myself for about two years.
We broke up a couple of times. Everytime we fought too much, got jealous or wanted the other person to be in touch more, it was because of the LD.
I still love him, want him back, and I know that he loves me too, things don't change that easily.
He actually started dating someone else 3 weeks after I broke up with him. An obvious case of rebound, so I don't worry.
My advice to you, as this is what I plan on doing as well:
No contact for a couple of weeks, if he contacts you answer and be polite, but don't ask questions, don't reach out to him. Set yourself a goal and travel, go and visit him. Let him know you're in town by dropping off something at his house/mailbox while he's at work... Let him contact you. Meet up and have fun, keep it casual. You two will reconnect in no time.
People move on and might start a new relationship, don't think that because your ex might move on one day, that he has stopped caring for you. He once was very much in love with you, it can happen again.
Not only women are often shy and afraid of getting their heart broken. Men are as well.
I'm sure he still considers the two of you an item in his heart, he doesn't like it when you meet new people etc... because he doesn't want you to meet a new guy. But he hesitated to say he'd love to get back together as well because the pain of the break-up is still fresh, there are many problems to overcome.
Problems that you can overcome by meeting up in person, talk and laugh, get back to that point where you first fell in love.
Some things are worth the fight, but things never come for free or easily.
Good luck!
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reader, lovely_menaime +, writes (26 January 2011):
lovely_menaime is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you..
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (24 January 2011):
 Block him and move on. LDR's aren't real relationships. They are imaginary. In a real relationship you spend time with each other, in person. You connect with each other, in person. You cuddle, kiss, laugh, go on dates... In an LDR, what do you do? Talk on the phone, or on skype. Email, IM, text... Then you spend the rest of the time missing the person you're in a 'relationship' with who you never actually see.
Don't hold yourself back anymore. Move on. You've been given a great opportunity. Don't spoil it.
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