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writes:i need help. there is this guy at school that likes me. he came on msn and hes like i love you.... stuff like that.then hes like you dont like me, dont talk to me. bye i did a stupid thing and told him i loved him then hes like you wanna go out and i said YES! but i dont know if i like him or not. what should i do
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2007): there are two different scenario's for this guy. first, he is a quite nice guy that finally got the courage to profess his feelings for you. he wasn't trying to manipulate you, he just likes you and isn't aware of the social norms for showing that he likes you.scenario two is that this guys is doing a very poor job of manipulating you. so he got you to say yes to going out with him. just go on a date, see if you can talk and not be ackward. if you want to keep going on dates, keep him as a boyfriend but say something about slowing down and not being in any rush. if you don't like him, just tell him he smells bad and you can't take it anymore.
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reader, Dangly  +, writes (29 November 2007):
just dump him
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2007): are you really old enough to be asking this question?! don't go out with him. blackmail is never good.
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (29 November 2007):
 First of all hon even if he does really like you he used the oldest trick in the book. It's called MANIPULATION!! You didn't have a chance to decide if you like him well enough to ever date him much less love him. He pushed your buttons and made you feel guilty so you gave what he wanted to please him. That is what is referred to as a PEOPLE PLEASER. It is ok to be considerate of someone's feelings and to be compassionate but it is not fair to be manipulated into giving something that you are not ready or willing to give.
I think you should be honest and tell him the truth. You think you need to start out as friends and see how it goes. Let him know you got caught up in the moment and you said you loved him but you didn't realize what you were saying at first. He might have a tendency to control thru his manipulative way. If he can manipulate into saying you love him when you barely know one another,then what else could he cause you to do? It is a possibility that he might become angered when you tell him so make sure you are not alone. Have a couple of close friends near (make one a male if possible) least to "watch your back". Just in case do remember that he might be a person who has low self esteem and is just over zealous that he likes you. It could be heis afraid of rejection. Sometimes though even this type of personality can be a cause for concern.
What ultimately matters here most is that YOU are satisfied with any relationship you are in. You want to be able to make the choice. It is your right! The relationship should be as healthy and uncomplicated as possible. When you are ready for a real relationship or love you should be able to do so without manipulation. Knowledge is power. A relationship should be of mutual caring and respect. If he is sincere and everything else is ok with friendship, then you move forward one step at the time at your own pace.
Seek God's wisdom and it will carry you through. He will give you the knowledge to love when it's the right time for you.
Godspeed.
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (29 November 2007):
 I dont think you should go out with him. He is already using emotional blackmail to try to control you. It is a bad situation and you are way too young to have to worry about this kind of crap yet.
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