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writes: hey i need help!!! i am 22,my pal [D] whos 25 said he is in love with me, he just broke up with his girl[M]who happens to be my friend also, D says he did it for me...he even told M that hes for me and he cant go on with her...M came to my house yesterday and dissed the bitch out of me, and i had nothing to say, i felt guilty and embarassed cuz i like D too. M, D and i have known each other for a decade now. M and D started dating 2 yrs ago, all this time i liked D but kept it to myself cuz i didnt want to be the witch. i still like D but M wont just talk to me...i am hip deep in muck and over my head in love.. and the grip on my friendship is loosening...wat shud i do? (F.Y.I): M is not my best friend but shes still a good friend and i have known her for a very long time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2007): It's very cruel of D to tell his girlfriend of two years that he can't go on with her and that he has feelings for you, I feel very sorry for her and it's no wonder she feels so hurt. Imagine how you would feel if someone told you that after you'd been with them for two years? He doesn't sound like a very kind person to be honest, and he should have broken up with her and then pursued you in the future, after some time had passed. My friends and I have a deal that exes are a no go zone. I would be devastated if my friend went out with my ex straight away. I would always be wondering if they'd been carrying on behind my back. If it's meant to be, then you should wait a little while out of respect to your friend. To be honest, if you do go out with him, you will lose M as a friend anyway, so you cannot please yourself and her at the same time. It's a shame, but she will be hurt regardless, so you may as well wait a little while, then if you still feel the same way about him, start a relationship. Just remember that when he breaks up with you, he might be jsut as cruel.
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reader, beautifultrustnlover  +, writes (4 September 2007):
 your playing with fire and i say its better to have friends than to lose everything if this relationship doesnt work out,
if anything dont jump into anything right away
give there break up some time and rebuild what you all have together
she may feel as you stole her man !
wait some time then see if it would be okay to be with him if you both feel the same way about each other and go from there thats my best advise to give is take time and use your head as well as your heart in this because you may lose everything
good luck
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