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dannichik
writes:Although I've had many relationships, the one that mattered the most to me was my college sweetheart. We only dated for 8 months, but he was the only person I ever loved. When he broke up with me, I was devistated, I never felt such a crushing blow. Eventually I had to move out of state to try to start over. This was 6 years ago, and not a day went by that I didn't think about him. Then about a year and a half ago, he contacted me through a social networking site. It turns out he too moved out of state, and my mom moved an hour away from him after her divorce. When I went to visit my mom, we met for dinner, and had an amazing time, and he promised to come visit me. This past weekend, instead, we met up in Las Vegas. A mind-blowing weekend, I was so happy! He said he had a great time and was glad to see me. But now we are on opposite sides of the country (I would move to be with him), and there have been no discussions about "what next?". I don't want to suggest it, it might scare him off. I'm so sad right now, I feel as he is the one meant for me, but it's not meant to be; I feel so incredibly hopeless. Should I continue our online friendship and hope for the best? Or try to move on?
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reader, dannichik +, writes (6 April 2008):
dannichik is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAn Update: 4 Months later, and I've distanced myself from him. We still write occasionaly via email, but I'm not as sad as I was when I wrote this original question. Thank you both for your advice!
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reader, birdynumnums  + ♥, writes (19 December 2007):
 You have been apart for 6 years, and seen each other for roughly 3 days. You may have been pining, but he may not have. Don't scare him off by deciding the rest of your life based on three days! If you had a good time, and your Mom lives near him, then be Very CASUAL and continue to e-mail him and Visit Your Mother OFTEN. If you have waited this long, let the whole thing simmer and see if it catches fire again! Don't tip your hat and scare him off by being too intense. Good Luck!
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reader, baby duck + ♥, writes (19 December 2007):
 There's no harm in continuing your online friendship and hoping for the best ... unless ... you find that the situation keeps you sad. =(
If it makes you sad, then you need to make a clean cut. If it enriches your life, though, proceed slowly and see where the road goes.
Best wishes.
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