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writes:I guess I'm asking this question to make sure I'm not the only one who feels this way...I'm 20 years old (still a virgin) and I've never been on a date. I would really like to go on a date/have a relationship with a great guy, but it never ever happens for me. It all comes so hard for me to open up, especially when I get hurt more often than not. EVERYtime I try to have something with a guy I like, he either rejects me, or pretends to feel the same way only to disappear on me later. I'm beginning to lose faith that I'll be able to be with anyone in the future. I try not to blame my relationship issues on my parents (they had a bad divorce when I was 12) but I can't help but wonder if I have some unconscious issues going on that's affecting me today. I don't find myself unattractive and have never encountered anyone who said i was unattractive; my friends say I have a sweet/friendly disposition and if I want a guy I have to change up my vibes...is that true? I've prayed for so long for God to allow me to have a relationship for once and it has yet to happen! I'm beginning to think there's something wrong w/ me...Why are all my friends getting to experience all of the things that I can't seem to??? I'm sorry this is so long, plz help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2011): lol girl I am 25 and am still a virgin. I'm attractive, educated and all that and guys still take a step back. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. it is just that guy sometimes feel that a virgin comes with responsibility or she might get too attached ... what you should be asking is what is wrong with them! lol
Don't let that stress you out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2011): hi i went thru the same thing with myself bt the question is r u lookn 4 love or do u wanna lose your virginty? for me i went a bit off rail i wish to this day that i stil had my virginty i lost it to the wrong person and nw i have 3 kids to the person i shud off married but the love has gone now and i'm seeking love some other way even though you might not agree with this but only a women knows what a women likes you can share tears and joy together i'm still in love with my kids father but i just want adventure from a women please don't give up someone is there for you and don't rush and i hope if you try my advice no one else wil no only you this dont mean you have 2 go the stripper bars mayb an open friend i hope this helped you me i'm stil lookn 4my first female so let me no how u get on
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reader, Jackalus  +, writes (2 October 2011):
Hey, I can see where your coming from even though I am only 15 but for a start don't get upset because you are a virgin, if your praying then you should be saving sex for marriage. I am presuming that the guys you know and meet see you as a friend and not possible dating material. Maybe ask a close friend of yours to set each other up and have a double date. But I also had the same kind of problems all my friends had gad multiply relationships and I hadn't even kissed a girl. I hope this helps.
Jackalus
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (2 October 2011):
 I know it may be hard to open up to anyone after being disappointed or hurt by someone. But if you want someone to steal your heart, you have to put it out there. No walls, no gates..etc. Be observant and a bit of a realist, but be open and optimistic as well.
And just know that you have to kiss a few frogs before you meet your prince. And once you do, you'll appreciate him so much more.
In addition to what I've written here I would like you to take a look at my comment that I left for someone else earlier who is somewhat experiencing difficulty meeting guys also. I think may be beneficial for you.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-have-never-been-pursued-by-a-guy.html
You may want to also check out these other articles as well:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/ladies-do-you-think-all-men-are-the.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-meet-the-man-or-woman-of.html
I wish you the very best! :^)
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